I used to think the world was designed for two people.
Life is best when it’s two. So quoth the single and the attached. Marriage for two remains the goal, with its accompaniment of benefits and tax breaks. Restaurant specials are offered to Couples. The day to day conveniences of being in a Couple are supposedly all around us.
Yet when I put my mind to it, my grasp on this reality unraveled like a a ball of string captured by a kitten. I’m not convinced the world is meant for just two people, anymore.
The world is oddly designed for Three.
….or, frankly, more than three. I swear, my life would be perfect if I had four other partners. How else am I supposed to run a D&D campaign or a WoW dungeon?
But, at least three. Like restaurants. Sharing dishes between three is honestly easier than between two. You can try two dishes, plus maybe an appetizer, and have the perfect amount of food. Or spending quality time? Chances are one of your two partners want to do that thing, or aren’t working at the same time.
Or if you have three kids? The typical family size is 3.15. 3 kids. 3 partners.
They say one person cannot fulfill all your needs, but what about two other people?
Sure, one person can’t fulfill all your needs. We all know that. But what about two? From my observations of other relationships, you can get quite a lot from two! Maybe not 100%, but, hey, a girl’s gotta take care of herself, too! (Or guy or whomever)
And with three (or more) incomes? The biggest expenses in life are rent and food. Share that, and any additional income is basically play money. (Okay, and children are an expense, but trust me, the benefits of having at least three reliable parents are still incredible!)
Or…well, quite honestly, the possibilities are endless! I am not there yet. But I do know others who have achieved this for themselves, and I am truly happy for them. I seek it for myself. God, I crave such a beautiful existence! Two loves of my life, by my side, every day. Or, dare I dream, three….?
Humans, like it or not, are social creatures.
One may not desire another person in their life, on a regular basis. One may certainly not want any romantic entanglements. I perfectly understand that (it’s not me, but I can understand wanting something like this). I have several pieces on the joy and validity of Singlehood. But I also believe very few are truly meant to be alone.
What you don’t see, when someone says, “I love being alone,” is what happens afterwards. When they confide to strangers or deepest friends that it’s rough. That tonight, they would like someone to hold them and say, “I care about you.” How desperately so many desire companionship, though their face tells a different story.
At any rate, the point is that we’re told that Two is the ultimate success.
And I can’t help but wonder if that magical number isn’t….three?!
I’m not so sure two is enough, anymore. Not in today’s world.