By the way, before you peruse my writings or my adventures, please know this: I’m open to any discussions. I’m open to anyone writing me and allowing me to share our conversations, not to shame or embarrass but to help others’ understand new perspectives— as well as receiving questions and answering them. I want to learn how others think.

But I would like to make a few points clear, and I am not open to negotiation on this:

If you don’t want to be submissive, I won’t try to change your mind.

If you don’t want to be polyamorous, I won’t persuade you.

If you don’t want to be kinky, I am fine with that.

But,

Don’t tell me you can’t be submissive, because you don’t want to be a doormat. (I am not submissive, because you can kick me around, and if you try, I will leave.)

Don’t tell me you can’t be polyamorous, because you want a “serious” relationship. (Do I have “casual” relationships that I value? Yes. I love the flexibility in that I can enjoy any relationship, with anyone who desires such with me. I also have primary relationship(s) that are more involved and committed than any I had outside of this lifestyle, and, yes, I even have a master I submit to, with no holding back. A master is perfectly capable, if they desire, of understanding their slaves have relationships besides them.)

Don’t tell me you don’t want to be kinky, because you don’t have trauma issues. (This is not my therapy. I want this life. I had a very normal, almost boring childhood, for what it’s worth.)

I’m not even going to go into how bisexuality isn’t a choice, because I can’t deal with that level of idiocy.

Don’t passive aggressively insult my life and expect me not to respond.

That isn’t how that works, that isn’t how any of this works. If you sincerely have confusion about any of these points, please send me a letter. I’ll answer it, and I won’t be harsh or judgmental (to the best of my ability). I will try my best to explain in more detail what I mean.

BUT—

Please. 

Stop justifying your lifestyle by making up excuses. 

Just do what you want, because you want it. And let those of us who want something different enjoy our decisions in peace.

Thank you,
Kitty