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my story of a kinky, romantic submissive’s journey to being owned is released on TUESDAY!
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let’s get married, because i want a big party
Dear future wife or husband, I want the party. It’s not about starting the rest of our lives together. We’re doing that right now. Every day is the rest of our lives together. Our lives aren’t going to start after the wedding. I’m not waiting until then. I want our lives starting together NOW. Not […]
mother’s day is bittersweet for me
I woke up. Showered. Came back to find the bed freshly made and the little pillows properly placed. I love clean sheets. I’m such a domestic, no? And on the pillow, on my side of the bed, is a card. Now, I’ve never gotten a card for Mother’s Day before. But these days, I’m feeling […]
where have all the good (monogamous) doms gone?
It seems like monogamous submissive women are having an especially hard time finding a good dominant, monogamous man. Maybe it was always difficult. But certainly, my single, vanilla female friends seemed to have an okay time finding a guy. Whereas I struggled finding a non monogamous guy who wasn’t awful. The tables seem to be […]
mutually assured destruction based relationships are my #1 hard limit
Mutually assured destruction (MAD) is a doctrine of military strategy and national security policy in which a full-scale use of nuclear weapons by two or more opposing sides would cause the complete annihilation of both the attacker and the defender (see pre-emptive nuclear strike and second strike).[1] It is based on the theory of deterrence, which holds that the threat of using strong weapons against the enemy prevents the enemy’s use […]
trust isn’t necessary to be a fucking decent person
I’ll say it here: Trust is overrated. It’s wonderful when it genuinely blossoms from a deep connection. A solidly built trust helps to reassure one that you are making the right decision with any given person with whom that trust is formed. Yet at the end of the day, the only person in whom you […]
i spent my twenties finding me
Some might say I wasted that decade. Threw my twenties away. They might be right– — but they might be wrong. If I could pass on a single life lesson to anyone, it would be this: Whoever you are, wherever you are, please put aside that time to find yourself. Because happiness is tricky. Everyone’s […]
when I put a whole raw chicken into the oven, my chocolate chip cookies came out tasting funny
What would happen if People Treated Baking Cookies like they do Relationships?
three shall be the number of thy counting
Life is best when it's two. So quoth the single and the attached. Marriage for two remains the goal, with its accompaniment of benefits and tax breaks. Restaurant specials are offered to Couples. The day to day conveniences of being in a Couple are supposedly all around us.
why you can’t make me jealous
If you flirt with another? I’ll happily curl up with you and chat with them about your new crush. If you play games, I’ll grow disinterested and wander off. If you, well, I don’t have the time to list everything you might do. But I’m sure there’s plenty of strategies. Perhaps you think it’ll make […]
Have weird guilt fetish and want to confess to something I didn’t do, to keep a partner I’m not sure I really want…Help!
Dear Kitty, Soon after my boyfriend had moved into my apartment with me, our relationship started to go down hill, and I realized I didn’t want to be with him. When the pandemic hit, I was still working in the office. I would come home to my partner drunk. He never cleaned and disrespected my […]
we remember feelings, not events
People don’t always remember what’s happened very well. History may be real, but how we recall it is...complicated. But, as I've spoken with people over time, I find we all remember how we felt with a person. Whether they made us feel good, stressed, jubilant, terrified. We remember the feelings.
“would you like a slice of pie?”
Lemon meringue. Pecan. Blueberry. Peach. Pear (is there pear pie?). Chess (yes, there's chess pie.). Mississippi Mud. Banoffee. Blackberry. Shoofly. Sugar, chiffon, custard, or sweet potato. Chicken pot pie.
your emotional burdens are not mine, but i will still listen
I shall state this simply and clearly for those in the back: Your emotional burdens are not my responsibility. …nor are my, or anyone else’s, burdens your responsibility. Call me cruel, heartless, unfeeling, but at least I feel I am fair. Of course, it’s your choice to live this way. I had a friend try […]
orgasms! a simple guide
Ah, orgasms, the at times elusive, but I believe always desired, goal of our most intimate, combining BOTH mental and physical intimacy, experiences!
metamour is essentially the poly equivalent of an in-law: a brief(ish) analysis, a
So I hear today is National Metamour Day? What is a metamour, you ask? Well, actually it's pretty simple: A metamour is like an in-law.