| Category/Musings (48) |
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| On Hard Talks |
self work: believing the one we love |
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my narcissists: “but the thing is…” |
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my narcissists: can you name your harm? |
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my narcissists: casually walking past abuse |
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toxic advice rant: “damaged” folk don’t need to be alone |
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my narcissists: don’t be the worse version they want you to be |
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my narcissists: do we owe reconciliation? |
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my narcissists: downward dating spiral |
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my narcissists: emotional toxicity, on |
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self work: forgiveness culture isn’t bullshit, it’s [my] survival |
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my narcissists: harsh realities of sunk costs vs staying with the “one whose been there for you”, the |
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my narcissists: her web of lies: a story of caution, aka putting my past behind me |
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hard thoughts: how I knew which victim to believe |
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hard thoughts: how to avoid a cheater |
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my narcissists: i don’t hate you enough to give you what you wanted |
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my narcissists: i don’t want her to be one of the broken ones |
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my narcissists: i thought she said sorry |
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toxic advice rant: if they are the -only- one for you, they might also be the very worst for you |
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hard thoughts: if they want you, they want you; if they don’t, they don’t |
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self work: is all damage “good damage”? |
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my narcissists: it isn’t up to her, OR waking up to a bright new day |
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self work: it’s harder to disappoint the ones that love you than you think |
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toxic advice rant: it’s so hard to make [insert name of group] happy– wait, no it fucking isn’t
hard thought: lessons on “green flags”: pt 1: when someone isn’t who you think they are
hard thought: lessons on “green flags: pt 2: how do you know if it’s real?
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self work: love isn’t always consensual but it can be ethical |
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my narcissists: mother’s day is bittersweet for me |
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hard thoughts: mutually assured destruction based relationships are my #1 hard limit |
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toxic advice rant: plight of the straight, female, mono submissive: part 1: dear pretty, mono girl |
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toxic advice rant: plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 2: where have all the good (monogamous) doms gone? |
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toxic advice rant: plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 3: congratulations, you found your perfect |
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toxic advice rant: reevaluating, “abused people, abuse people” |
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hard thought: seeing them for who they are shouldn’t ruin them |
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my narcissists: she gave me a view from halfway down |
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my narcissists: some days i wish for the strength of a misguided strength |
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self work: stop getting offended– and start being accountable |
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self work: stupid piece of shit; a reflection on my inner voices |
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toxic advice rant: to those who say, “you’ll find them when you stop looking” |
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my narcissists: trust isn’t necessary to be a fucking decent person |
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self work: your emotional burdens are not mine, but i will still listen |
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toxic advice rant: “you’re TOO nice!” |
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hard thought: watching the (almost) birth of an incel |
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my narcissists: watermelon thoughts |
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my narcissists: what am i willing to lose? |
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toxic advice rant: when abuse is the only kink someone knows |
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self work: when hate is too much, try indifference |
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hard thought: when they tell you they’re fine |
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toxic advice rant: why i don’t “push” past the no (or try not to!), a.k.a. attempting not to be a hypocrite |
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toxic advice rant: why I won’t stop listening to “both” sides |
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self work: women2women: womenfolk (or femme presenting) are not your competition |