Saint Kitty

let me be confused

I’m walking around, and I overhear the words floating in a conversation, “They’re confused.” In my head, I know I’m supposed to vehemently deny such ignorance. “No, they’re not!  You’re confused!” Except they rarely are, if I am quite honest.  Misogynists, racists, idiots.  Somehow, they’re never confused.  No matter how long, rambling, and nonsensical their …

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when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”

I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …

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wanting other people doesn’t mean you’re less perfect (*spoilers to Undone Season 1*)

“What is wrong with me,” the sister queries through her tears as she confesses to cheating on her fiancé with a bartender. “Nothing is wrong with you,” Alma reassures her, “You’re human. You’re not perfect.” I appreciate the sentiment, but I think she deserves a little better than that. I wish I could slip into …

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nice to meet you, i’m childfree with three children

Hello, have we met? I am a proud, child free not a mother of three. Nobody wants to be with me, don’t you know? I am totally single. Except for my master of twelve years with whom I share a home and a life…my play partners…my intimate friends. But, really, basically single. (It’s true, too, …

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“she doesn’t get to feel traumatized!”

“She doesn’t get to be traumatized!” My munchkin and her biological mother have a strained relationship.  I’m not going to explain, nor justify, but there’s plenty of reason for her to feel that way about the woman who gave birth to her. I’m cross legged on my oldest munchkin’s bed, attempting to mollify her after …

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“sometimes I feel like, if I could start everything over, knowing what I know now, I’d do it all right this time. But other times, I think, no I wouldn’t.”

A Princess Carolyn line.  A good one, too. I’d talk less, smile more. Eat more fresh fruit, drink less– no. No, I wouldn’t. I’d do it all the same, more or less. I’d probably have most of the same virtues and vices. Still waste lots of time. On people and things. But maybe…. just maybe… …

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