Saint Kitty

morality of monogamy, polygamy, and relationship anarchy, the

The funny little ways we perceive love and ourselves. At heart, I am polyamorous– but one can be polyamorous and in a monogamous, polygamous/polyandrous, or any relationship structure of one’s choosing (which would be relationship “anarchy,” not perhaps the best word but the one associated with the term). I believe one ought to be able …

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breathing through the weight of toxic positivity

Suffocating, feels like I can’t breathe Can’t speak The problem, of course, is that toxic positivity is POSITIVE She feigns concern for her children, “They should have heat when it’s cold.” The problem is it isn’t that cold, my own mother gently chided me when I complained myself, “Good thing you lost heat when you …

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relationship between shame, guilt, humiliation, and degradation, the

I recently became inspired to consider the connections between shame, guilt, humiliation, and degradation. As my master is Jewish, and our oldest daughter is devout enough for High Holy Days, I attended Yom Kippur services with them both.  The rabbi’s speech centered around two concepts, Shame and Guilt.   At one point he started labeling some things as …

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what “exclusive” means to me

Sometimes I see exclusive associated with rare or valuable, but to me exclusive reminds me of Pretentious Elitist Racist (“whites only” locations) Snobby Unobtainable Small Marketing Unaffordable Distant Reserved for the wealthy and privileged An exclusive restaurant I cannot afford. An exclusive experience I’ll never have, because I don’t have the “right” connections or wasn’t …

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