Saint Kitty

mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition

Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages:  What does love mean to you?  Look like?  How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …

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living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part two: the murmur of “noise”

There’s a lot of noise and confusion as you come into your own, as a queer person. For context, I have at least one child who is going through an active period of questioning and evolving her sexuality. At twelve, she’s already dealing with her own “noise.”  Is she confused?  Not really.  Not anymore than …

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living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part one: on being “enough”

… can be exhausting. Justifying. Explaining. Listening to second hand lies. Of what or who I am, according to those who haven’t bothered to ask me. I am not queer enough. I am not attracted to enough bodies (why can’t you be pansexual?).  Not loving enough, etc. etc. I live with a man, I play …

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