Sure, why not? It seems like an easy enough thing. People think you can pick up submissives; or even dominants, like picking up ice cream from the convenience store. You can just have a submissive, or you could just be someone’s submissive. I’ve seen the ads (and, yes, they came from doms and subs alike, …
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eJealousy: a word that provokes a tidal wave of emotion Some people will say that jealousy isn’t “real,” but typically what they mean by that is that jealousy is not a thing in and of itself, but a sign of something else. Jealousy is a manifestation of insecurity, fear, anger, etc. What they don’t always …
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“Why not just give it a try?” some ask. “What can it hurt?” But it isn’t that simple. Some simply do not desire more romance in their lives– and there is a greater reason, I think, beyond that. It’s terrifying. I read a play called A Doll’s House when I was in college. It made a lasting …
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The funny little ways we perceive love and ourselves. At heart, I am polyamorous– but one can be polyamorous and in a monogamous, polygamous/polyandrous, or any relationship structure of one’s choosing (which would be relationship “anarchy,” not perhaps the best word but the one associated with the term). I believe one ought to be able …
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Suffocating, feels like I can’t breathe Can’t speak The problem, of course, is that toxic positivity is POSITIVE She feigns concern for her children, “They should have heat when it’s cold.” The problem is it isn’t that cold, my own mother gently chided me when I complained myself, “Good thing you lost heat when you …
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“Choose to be authentic. Choose happiness.” That’s easy enough to say when you’re privileged. Authenticity isn’t a choice for everyone. Some of us can only (freely) do it if others CHOOSE to support us. Some of us must be content with living authentically amongst those we trust Remember that, and be kind.
There’s a story about the North Wind, the Sun, and a Man in a Coat. The man is the object which the Cloud and Sun are attempting to manipulate the Man to remove his Coat. The North Wind blows and blows but the Man only pulls his Coat closer round himself. The Sun gently smiles …
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Six Reasons Why a Person Can be Monogamous From Insecurity to Boredom The idea that it’s impossible to only love one person at a time is a myth. From insecurity to desperation, these are 6 of the most common reasons people can stop falling in love after one person. When my patients ask me this …
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I recently became inspired to consider the connections between shame, guilt, humiliation, and degradation. As my master is Jewish, and our oldest daughter is devout enough for High Holy Days, I attended Yom Kippur services with them both. The rabbi’s speech centered around two concepts, Shame and Guilt. At one point he started labeling some things as …
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Sometimes I see exclusive associated with rare or valuable, but to me exclusive reminds me of Pretentious Elitist Racist (“whites only” locations) Snobby Unobtainable Small Marketing Unaffordable Distant Reserved for the wealthy and privileged An exclusive restaurant I cannot afford. An exclusive experience I’ll never have, because I don’t have the “right” connections or wasn’t …
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