Lots of thoughts swirling in my mind lately, It’s the playoff push for the NHL. It’s funny how the atmosphere changes. It changes when the game enters the playoffs. When the games start to matter. It should be the same thing, It’s technically the same game. Same rules, same players. Well, slight structural changes. But, […]
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I shall, for purposes of this argument, say there is something that is an instinctual thing that happens when another thing happens (“reaction”) and something that is a measured and calculated thing to that thing that happened (“response”). (In fairness, I feel I heard this somewhere, but I cannot remember exactly where. It isn’t something
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I’ve been watching “The Good Place.” Again. And again. And again. I can’t stop watching. Until a certain, let’s say, infallible truth emerged. Namely, You don’t actually need a “bad place,” in order to have a “good place.” I support most of the show (minus the inevitable toxic relationship stuff that is in everything). Only
What does it mean to be an alpha submissive? Does the role even exist? Or is it just a way for a confused Switch to self describe? Being an alpha submissive, for me, isn’t about being a role model. I’m hardly simply because you are a role model. And you will be if you are someone’s submissive
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I’m an all in kind of woman (if I am a woman, which I’m currently debating). That’s what I like. That’s what’s worth it for me. …but it’s not the only thing worth it. Connections matter more to me than anything else. It’s what I’ve got. I’m not the smartest, wealthiest, most accomplished. I don’t
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Ugly people don’t think they are ugly. Uneducated people do not believe they are. Cruel people don’t see themselves as cruel. Narcissists don’t question if they’re narcissists. Awful mothers do not think they are awful. They don’t wonder about things. If you wonder, “Am I [something I don’t want to be]”? …you’re probably not.
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“What are you into?” Some folk get mad at the question. They say the question is trite, boring. ‘What was the best part about your day?,” your mother would ask you at dinner, after you got home from school. And secretly, you hated that question. “What are you into?” starts to feel like the grown
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I wrote how it’s rarely too late, except for you can’t get back time. But I wanted to add a bit to that. Yes, I’m going to revisit Bojack Horseman. #sorrynotsorryitsmyfavoriteshow At least when it comes to talking about relationships. The consequences of toxic behaviors. And some of what I believe are the true secrets
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I choose kindness, compassion, and warmth. Being the one to bring a smile to your lips- rather than tears to your eyes- makes me feel…full. Gentle. Soft. Welcoming. The one that attracts the pups and kittens and littles, who perhaps sense that I won’t hurt them. The one that you know will hold you, sharing
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why i’m polyamorous, in appreciation & acknowledgement of happy polyamory day I have two reasons. Shall I present the profound reason first, or the…less profound? The Bus Stop Analogy Whenever I see someone at the bus stop, I never know what will happen between them and myself. Will they be a fleeting memory, a smile?
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