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silly little thoughts of a ptsd survivor

it was your fault you should’ve known why didn’t you say something earlier? why didn’t you do more? nobody would want you, if they knew you you’re ugly, you’re fat you’re stupid, you know that, right? you don’t do enough you’re not good enough just go away, they’d be better off without you don’t say …

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of course there’s a chance they will leave you!

Toxic positivity. Freaking everywhere. I don’t even know where to begin to handle the problem.  I hear a lot of people say, “If I did let my relationship become non monogamous, my partner would leave me.” A lot of people will tell them, “No, no that’s not what ENM is about! That’s not what will …

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it’s rarely too late, but you can never get back time: princess carolyn addendum

I wrote how it’s rarely too late, except for you can’t get back time.  But I wanted to add a bit to that. Yes, I’m going to revisit Bojack Horseman. #sorrynotsorryitsmyfavoriteshow At least when it comes to talking about relationships. The consequences of toxic behaviors. And some of what I believe are the true secrets …

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women2women: womenfolk (or femme presenting) are not your competition

Women, I need you to listen to something, I am not your competition. We are not each other’s competition. Of this, I can assure you. Life will throw plenty of obstacles your way. It will create competition at every step of the journey. We needn’t make it worse by competing among each other. That other …

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if they want you, they want you; if they don’t, they don’t

Nobody wants to feel unwanted. It’s one of the worst feelings, stupid, petty, gross. Doesn’t even have any self righteousness to it, like betrayal. Being unwanted just sucks. Unfortunately, it’s all too common. Dating polyamorously means I end up dating a lot. Or sort of dating? I don’t even know anymore. But whatever it is, …

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to those who say, “you’ll find them when you stop looking”

“You’ll find them when you stop looking.” I heard those words. I heard them as I was busy in the middle of abandoning yet another project, ambition, etc. I’m notoriously bad at finishing (well, not that kind of finishing!). I’m fine with beginnings. I get excited about new ideas– and then I forget about them. …

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plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 3: congratulations, you found your perfect monogamous dom!

Congratulations! Hey, it was tough, but you managed it. You found Him. The perfect dom and monogamous! I mean, how often do you stumble across that? But you caught this one! You found your perfect match. Your one true love (at least for now. S/he is the perfect, monogamous dom(me) who does it for desire– …

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