Death by a thousand cuts is more than a saying. When I was in a college study abroad program, one of the guys and I played Magic. Forgive me, I am not a very good Magic player. I haven’t played in years. But I remember Red being the one that had a lot of easily …
microaggressions & playing Magic with the Red cards Read More »
it was your fault you should’ve known why didn’t you say something earlier? why didn’t you do more? nobody would want you, if they knew you you’re ugly, you’re fat you’re stupid, you know that, right? you don’t do enough you’re not good enough just go away, they’d be better off without you don’t say …
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Toxic positivity. Freaking everywhere. I don’t even know where to begin to handle the problem. I hear a lot of people say, “If I did let my relationship become non monogamous, my partner would leave me.” A lot of people will tell them, “No, no that’s not what ENM is about! That’s not what will …
of course there’s a chance they will leave you! Read More »
I’ve heard that a million times. “You’re too nice!” Said to myself (in regards to what I do for others) and to others (in regards to what they do for me). I never know if it’s supposed to be a shocked utterance, an insult, or even a compliment of sorts? It often comes from a …
what does it mean to be “too nice”? Read More »
I wrote how it’s rarely too late, except for you can’t get back time. But I wanted to add a bit to that. Yes, I’m going to revisit Bojack Horseman. #sorrynotsorryitsmyfavoriteshow At least when it comes to talking about relationships. The consequences of toxic behaviors. And some of what I believe are the true secrets …
it’s rarely too late, but you can never get back time: princess carolyn addendum Read More »
Women, I need you to listen to something, I am not your competition. We are not each other’s competition. Of this, I can assure you. Life will throw plenty of obstacles your way. It will create competition at every step of the journey. We needn’t make it worse by competing among each other. That other …
women2women: womenfolk (or femme presenting) are not your competition Read More »
Nobody wants to feel unwanted. It’s one of the worst feelings, stupid, petty, gross. Doesn’t even have any self righteousness to it, like betrayal. Being unwanted just sucks. Unfortunately, it’s all too common. Dating polyamorously means I end up dating a lot. Or sort of dating? I don’t even know anymore. But whatever it is, …
if they want you, they want you; if they don’t, they don’t Read More »
“You’ll find them when you stop looking.” I heard those words. I heard them as I was busy in the middle of abandoning yet another project, ambition, etc. I’m notoriously bad at finishing (well, not that kind of finishing!). I’m fine with beginnings. I get excited about new ideas– and then I forget about them. …
to those who say, “you’ll find them when you stop looking” Read More »
Congratulations! Hey, it was tough, but you managed it. You found Him. The perfect dom and monogamous! I mean, how often do you stumble across that? But you caught this one! You found your perfect match. Your one true love (at least for now. S/he is the perfect, monogamous dom(me) who does it for desire– …
If I were single and you met me, what would change? Would we be each other’s first priority, since we had “nobody else”? I suppose all the friends, family, etc in our lives wouldn’t count for anything. No, I’d clearly be “alone.” Except for you. Do you think my life would then be yours? I …
if I were single today, would you be my primary tomorrow? Read More »