Kitty’s Musings

A collection of Kitty’s thoughts, philosophies, lists of favorite things…and other things Kitty can’t think of right now but will happen at some point! Kitty hopes others will find something of value in all that happens when Kitty disappears into her had for hours at a time..

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phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one

Polyamory is NOT Just about having or wanting many, loving relationships -almost- ALL people want this and have this. Just because they “only” have one (or no) romantic relationships doesn’t mean they don’t have multiple, loving NON romantic relationships. Please avoid appearing like you believe you’re the only one with “too much love” to give …

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people really are bad at relationships: part one

I swear, I didn’t make these up. True relationship quotes I found from vanilla folk about polyamory and ENM (some responses are from me, others from actual responses from strangers). “I mean, respect to those who make this work, but I can’t understand how they don’t murder each other out of jealousy.” “If your best …

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understanding the existence of multiple, simultaneous relationships, OR when one ignores the 1+1=X rule

I am not a mathematical person. I cannot tell you if 1+1=2, mathematically speaking. I know there are arguments, apparently both ways, where some say one plus one equals two– and some say it does not. Don’t ask me for the mathematical proof, please. I am, however, a relationship person. In relationships, 1+1=X.  I would …

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oh, I keep falling in and out of love with you…and you…and you…

I am in love with Love. When you’re someone who adores, breathes Love. When love is more precious than any diamond. When all you want is to feel safe, warm, and full of light. It is a painful world we live in that has trouble wrapping their mind around this. I’ve heard (true quote), “I …

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is it lazy to not have a primary partner?

I’ve seen this come up time and time again. Especially related to how soooo many folks in polyamorous relationships don’t want to commit, are just looking to have fun, don’t want a “serious” relationship..and I keep hearing this word… Lazy. I thought I’d drop it here, for posterity’s sake. And to engage a bit of …

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social media, in its sincerest form, is a mirror of our lives

“Social media isn’t real, anyway,” my friend shrugs. It’s true. It rarely speaks to our realities. Nobody wants to hear that kind of thing, at least not in that context. Time and place, as with everything. I do not spill it all on social media. These people are not my therapist. It’s unfair of me …

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