“I Love You,” and Beyond Love languages. You may have come across this concept before. Love is complex, but expressing love has become somewhat simplified in popular culture. Love is all about the first kiss, the moment of truth. “I love you.” Without it, it can feel as if your love isn’t true. That you …
Misery is, indeed, miserable company, as I read somewhere. The thought stayed with me for days after. Misery is miserable company. Huh. I cannot deny that, and yet she isn’t always this way. Not with me. She whispered to me, “Nobody will ever understand you like I understand you. Nobody will ever love you as …
I lie on the ground, staring at the open sky. Until I see a sharp light flash across the darkness. A shooting star. How often have I heard someone talking about a hoped for unicorn? More than I can speak on. It’s usually not a bisexual woman into couples, however, but something far rarer. If …
Toxic positivity. Freaking everywhere. I don’t even know where to begin to handle the problem. I hear a lot of people say, “If I did let my relationship become non monogamous, my partner would leave me.” A lot of people will tell them, “No, no that’s not what ENM is about! That’s not what will …
Another day, another thought. Am reading one of those stupid, poison-ridden Reddit dramas. This one about a woman mad that her newly wed husband chose to spend Thanksgiving with his mother over her. I agree with her that it sucks. She doesn’t get along with her MIL, and now she loses her husband for the …
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Letting go is hard. As a self acknowledged hoarder, I understand this. I’m currently staring down two piles of…well, I’m not really sure what. But I told myself I’m not putting this one back in storage. I’m going to address each and every item.; and either put it in its “place” (and, no, back in …
Sure, why not? It seems like an easy enough thing. People think you can pick up submissives- or even dominants- like picking up ice cream from the convenience store. You can just have a submissive or a dom(me). Just scan through the ads. I’ve seen the ads (and, yes, they came from doms and subs …
Jealousy: a word that provokes a tidal wave of emotion Some people will say that jealousy isn’t “real,” but typically what they mean by that is that jealousy is not a thing in and of itself, but a sign of something else. Jealousy is a manifestation of insecurity, fear, anger, etc. What they don’t always …
“Why not just give [polyamory] a try?” some ask. “What can it hurt?” But it isn’t that simple. Some simply do not desire more romance in their lives– and there is a greater reason, I think, beyond that. It’s terrifying. I read a play called A Doll’s House when I was in college. It made a lasting …
The funny little ways we perceive love and ourselves. I grew up around Mormons, which meant I was familiar with polygamy from a young age. It was old fashioned, of course, and outdated. Still, everyone knew it happened. I did believe in equality; if a man could have multiple wives, women ought to have the …
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