Kitty’s Musings

A collection of Kitty’s thoughts, philosophies, lists of favorite things…and other things Kitty can’t think of right now but will happen at some point! Kitty hopes others will find something of value in all that happens when Kitty disappears into her had for hours at a time..

God, your relationships are so LAZY!

I’m lazy about relationships some days.  So are my friends.  Random internet strangers. …and who the fuck cares? My cousin is a typical traditionalist who chose the path of least resistance when it came to her romantic life. Something easily understood by her mainly Christian conservative friends and family. She dated the opposite sex. She …

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10(+) questions to help know if polyamorous relationships -could- be a compatible choice for you

Do you want to try a polyamorous relationship for the first time? Open up an existing relationship?  Date a partnered person? It’s bother harder, and easier, than you’ve likely been told.  Being polyamorous is really no different than any other life.  Especially if you have a few life skills already under your belt.  Which…it might …

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let me be confused

I’m walking around, and I overhear the words floating in a conversation, “They’re confused.” In my head, I know I’m supposed to vehemently deny such ignorance. “No, they’re not!  You’re confused!” Except they rarely are, if I am quite honest. Misogynists, racists, idiots.  Somehow, they’re never confused.  No matter how long, rambling, and nonsensical their …

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when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”

I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …

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wanting other people doesn’t mean you’re less perfect (*spoilers to Undone Season 1*)

“What is wrong with me,” the sister queries through her tears as she confesses to cheating on her fiancé with a bartender. “Nothing is wrong with you,” Alma reassures her, “You’re human. You’re not perfect.” I appreciate the sentiment, but I think she deserves a little better than that. If it were me, I’d say …

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“she doesn’t get to feel traumatized!”

“She doesn’t get to be traumatized!” My munchkin and her biological mother have a strained relationship.  I’m not going to explain, nor justify, but there’s plenty of reason for her to feel that way about the woman who gave birth to her. I’m cross legged on my oldest munchkin’s bed, attempting to mollify her after …

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Valentines Day Background Two Red Hearts On Vintage Wooden Table By Romolo Tavani

privilege of being His second love, the

In the movies, the “best” loves aren’t the first ones.  They sometimes portray it as the last and final love of the movie is the “real,” love, but I’d just as soon stay away from telling someone that their love is “real” or “not real.” “Unhealthy love” or…”unsuited love”?  At any rate, the main character …

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