On Empathy & Acceptance

On growing up as a bisexual woman & other obervances on being queer

living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part two: the murmur of “noise”

There’s a lot of noise and confusion as you come into your own, as a queer person. For context, I have at least one child who is going through an active period of questioning and evolving her sexuality. At twelve, she’s already dealing with her own “noise.”  Is she confused?  Not really.  Not anymore than …

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living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part one: on being “enough”

… can be exhausting. Justifying. Explaining. Listening to second hand lies. Of what or who I am, according to those who haven’t bothered to ask me. I am not queer enough. I am not attracted to enough bodies (why can’t you be pansexual?).  Not loving enough, etc. etc. I live with a man, I play …

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Frau im Ruderboot steuert auf Leuchtturm zu By Mediaparts

“It’s so lovely you made a friend,” they say, and I want to say, “…but how do you know that she’s a friend?”

“Your drawing looks like someone I knew. She was lovely.”“She -is-. I haven’t seen her for a week. I wonder if she’s upset with me, because I forgot about her.”“If she’s a friend, everything will be fine once you talk to her.” When Marnie Was There, 2014 I shouldn’t notice this scene, but I do. …

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it’s harder to disappoint the ones that love you than you think

I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling like I’m letting the people around me down. My master sees me intimately, each and every day. I want him to see the best of me. Of course that isn’t always achievable. The littlest one had to get her Covid shot today (something she was very eager to …

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