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Sometimes Kitty doesn’t feel so lighthearted…

funny how you’re suddenly ugly/fat/dangerous/a bitch AFTER you say “no”

Before you’re their world, their everythingYou’re magnificent, beautiful, a gemThey’ve never seen another woman like youNever known a woman to exude such presence But then you say no Spin on a dimeTurn ugly, cruel, closedYou’re dangerous,Selfish.Cold.A bitch. After you say no I thought you meant itThe flattering words,The promisesBut it was a lie. He said …

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to those who say, “you’ll find them when you stop looking”

“You’ll find them when you stop looking.” I heard those words. I heard them as I was busy in the middle of abandoning yet another project, ambition, etc. I’m notoriously bad at finishing (well, not that kind of finishing!). I’m fine with beginnings. I get excited about new ideas– and then I forget about them. …

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reevaluating, “abused people, abuse people”

Abused people, abuse people. I’ve heard that a lot. It’s easy to find yourself trapped in that mentality. As angry as I’ve gotten at my ex-metamour, I know that she’s mostly repeating what her own mother did to her. This is what she believes love looks like. It’s what she’s known. Abused people, abuse people. …

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plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 3: congratulations, you found your perfect monogamous dom!

Congratulations! Hey, it was tough, but you managed it. You found Him. The perfect dom and monogamous! I mean, how often do you stumble across that? But you caught this one! You found your perfect match. Your one true love (at least for now. S/he is the perfect, monogamous dom(me) who does it for desire– …

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