Toxic positivity. Freaking everywhere. I don’t even know where to begin to handle the problem. I hear a lot of people say, “If I did let my relationship become non monogamous, my partner would leave me.” A lot of people will tell them, “No, no that’s not what ENM is about! That’s not what will …
ghosting smearing to cover your own cowardice violating boundaries spreading lies manipulation petty piece of shit
Brown paper packages tied up with string, Balenciaga bags, Christian Louboutin heels, oh, these are a few of my favorite things! Such luxuries can be nice. A comfort in hard times. Why can’t we have nice things? Well, we can’t afford them. Whenever I see some woman (usually a female person, but sometimes a male) …
The allure of ignorance. Do you want to know? To have your eyes opened? It cannot be undone. It is a beautiful thing to see the truth, yet it can be painful. Suppose you spent a lifetime believing a lie, only to have that lie crumpled up and thrown away? Suppose, too, you sacrificed that …
Sometimes you love someone– and all you receive is their pity. Sometimes you waste your life for someone– and they resent you for it. Sometimes you say, “I’ve always been there for you.”– and they say,”That’s the problem.” Sometimes you adore them– and they are creeped out. Sometimes you craft the most perfect love letter– …
I read an article today about a mother who missed the days when she did not yet have children. Some will say that is just a passing phase. Others that they would never, ever feel that way. I wondered how many of them had ever met a child, let alone raised one. You will miss …
“You’ll find them when you stop looking.” I heard those words. I heard them as I was busy in the middle of abandoning yet another project, ambition, etc. I’m notoriously bad at finishing (well, not that kind of finishing!). I’m fine with beginnings. I get excited about new ideas– and then I forget about them. …
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Abused people, abuse people. I’ve heard that a lot. It’s easy to find yourself trapped in that mentality. As angry as I’ve gotten at my ex-metamour, I know that she’s mostly repeating what her own mother did to her. This is what she believes love looks like. It’s what she’s known. Abused people, abuse people. …
Congratulations! Hey, it was tough, but you managed it. You found Him. The perfect dom and monogamous! I mean, how often do you stumble across that? But you caught this one! You found your perfect match. Your one true love (at least for now. S/he is the perfect, monogamous dom(me) who does it for desire– …
It seems like monogamous submissive women are having an especially hard time finding a good dominant, monogamous man. (Let’s not even get started on straight, submissive male submissives.) Maybe it was always difficult. But certainly, my single, vanilla female friends seemed to have an okay time finding a guy. Whereas I struggled finding a non …