emotional abuse is abuse
ghosting smearing to cover your own cowardice violating boundaries spreading lies manipulation petty piece of shit
On Hard Talks
Sometimes Kitty doesn’t feel so lighthearted…
funny how you’re suddenly ugly/fat/dangerous/a bitch AFTER you say “no”
Before you’re their world, their everythingYou’re magnificent, beautiful, a gemThey’ve never seen another woman like youNever known a woman to exude such presence But then you say no Spin on a dimeTurn ugly, cruel, closedYou’re dangerous,Selfish.Cold.A bitch. After you say no I thought you meant itThe flattering words,The promisesBut it was a lie. He said …
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they do get some”thing” out of it
Brown paper packages tied up with string, Balenciaga bags, and Christian Louboutin kitten heels. “For Christian Louboutin, shoes are a pedestal to celebrate the woman who wears them.” So the site claims. Objects are status. Status is power. But at what cost, when it comes from an abuser or a predator? Whenever I see some …
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boy (or girl) who cried wolf, the
What do you do, what do you say? What do you do when the person claiming hurt is the one that hurt you? Do you believe them… this time? Do you put the past in behind you? Do you sit back and let whatever will be, will be? Do you think I know? I don’t …
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tired of the lies
So many stupid, pointless, damaging lies, Some woman told she’s just as important as his partner of twenty years. Of course she isn’t, and it only hurts when she’s treated “less.” Why say the same sugar coated lies that someone told her in any monogamous relationship, how she was the most important thing to him …
ripping off the blindfold
The allure of ignorance. Do you want to know? To have your eyes opened? It cannot be undone. It is a beautiful thing to see the truth, yet it can be painful. Suppose you spent a lifetime believing a lie, only to have that lie crumpled up and thrown away? Suppose, too, you sacrificed that …
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sometimes you’re not enough
Sometimes you love someone– and all you receive is their pity. Sometimes you waste your life for someone– and they resent you for it. Sometimes you say, “I’ve always been there for you.”– and they say,”That’s the problem.” Sometimes you adore them– and they are creeped out. Sometimes you craft the most perfect love letter– …
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to those who say, “you’ll find them when you stop looking”
“You’ll find them when you stop looking.” I heard those words. I heard them as I was busy in the middle of abandoning yet another project, ambition, etc. I’m notoriously bad at finishing (well, not that kind of finishing!). I’m fine with beginnings. I get excited about new ideas– and then I forget about them. …
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reevaluating, “abused people, abuse people”
Abused people, abuse people. I’ve heard that a lot. It’s easy to find yourself trapped in that mentality. As angry as I’ve gotten at my ex-metamour, I know that she’s mostly repeating what her own mother did to her. This is what she believes love looks like. It’s what she’s known. Abused people, abuse people. …
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plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 3: congratulations, you found your perfect monogamous dom!
Congratulations! Hey, it was tough, but you managed it. You found Him. The perfect dom and monogamous! I mean, how often do you stumble across that? But you caught this one! You found your perfect match. Your one true love (at least for now. S/he is the perfect, monogamous dom(me) who does it for desire– …