emotional abuse is abuse
ghosting smearing to cover your own cowardice violating boundaries spreading lies manipulation petty piece of shit
On Hard Talks
Sometimes Kitty doesn’t feel so lighthearted…
funny how you’re suddenly ugly/fat/dangerous/a bitch AFTER you say “no”
Before you’re their world, their everythingYou’re magnificent, beautiful, a gemThey’ve never seen another woman like youNever known a woman to exude such presence But then you say no Spin on a dimeTurn ugly, cruel, closedYou’re dangerous,Selfish.Cold.A bitch. After you say no I thought you meant itThe flattering words,The promisesBut it was a lie. He said …
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they do get some”thing” out of it
Brown paper packages tied up with string, Balenciaga bags, and Christian Louboutin kitten heels. “For Christian Louboutin, shoes are a pedestal to celebrate the woman who wears them.” So the site claims. Objects are status. Status is power. But at what cost, when it comes from an abuser or a predator? Whenever I see some …
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boy (or girl) who cried wolf, the
What do you do, what do you say? What do you do when the person claiming hurt is the one that hurt you? Do you believe them… this time? Do you put the past in behind you? Do you sit back and let whatever will be, will be? Do you think I know? I don’t …
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tired of the lies
So many stupid, pointless, damaging lies, Some woman he’s just met yesterday told she’s just as important as his partner of twenty years. Of course she isn’t, and it only hurts when she’s treated “less.” Why say the same sugar coated lies that someone told her in any monogamous relationship, how she was the most …
ripping off the blindfold
The allure of ignorance. Do you want to know? To have your eyes opened? It cannot be undone. It is a beautiful thing to see the truth, yet it can be painful. Suppose you spent a lifetime believing a lie, only to have that lie crumpled up and thrown away? Suppose, too, you sacrificed that …
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sometimes you’re not enough
Sometimes you love someone– and all you receive is their pity. Sometimes you waste your life for someone– and they resent you for it. Sometimes you say, “I’ve always been there for you.”– and they say,”That’s the problem.” Sometimes you adore them– and they are creeped out. Sometimes you craft the most perfect love letter– …
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letting go, holding on
#isolation I hear some women talking about the men who left them. Some men talk about the women who left them, too. It feels nice. I would like that to happen to me. For my demons to just move on, disappear. Mine like to stick around, for whatever reason. I don’t know why people complain …
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you will (probably) miss the person you were before you became a mom (or parent) & it’s okay!
I read an article today about a mother who missed the days when she did not yet have children. Some will say that is just a passing phase. Others that they would never, ever feel that way. I wondered how many of them had ever met a child, let alone raised one. You will miss …
downward dating spiral
As soon as she wasn’t interested in me sexually, she wasn’t interested in me romantically. As soon as she wasn’t interested in me romantically, she wasn’t interested in speaking with me. As soon as she wasn’t interested in speaking with me, she stopped saying “hello.” As soon as she stopped saying “hello,” she needed a …
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