The One Twue Way they told you is the Only way. Just kidding. There’s no “right” way- it’s just what suits you and what gets you what you want.
But if you’d like to know how at least one kinky, poly parent does it, well, here’s the place for you! (Spoilers, it’s a lot more fun than you’ll see almost anywhere else!)
I read an article today about a mother who missed the days when she did not yet have children. Some will say that is just a passing phase. Others that they would never, ever feel that way. I wondered how many of them had ever met a child, let alone raised one. You will miss …
It’s late Sunday evening, around 9pm. I notice my oldest munchkin at her usual ritual. She’s sitting at the dinner table, absorbed in her snacks and her Facebook scrolling. It’s one of the few times she emerges from her den. I’m annoyed at her for bolting away from dinner earlier and avoiding chores. She’s barely …
practicing kindness in little ways: a gentle approach to daily life Read More »
“Being a mom must be hard,” she says. It’s true- to an extent. But I’ve got a dirty little secret for you. Sssshhh, come closer!
I’m out with friends the other night. One girl– my friend’s friend visiting from out of town– doesn’t finish her last drink. Of course I’m the one that downs it (supposedly impressively quickly, but, hey, I’m tired and I want to get home.). I don’t know if I instinctively don’t want to waste a perfectly …
many looks of the “mommy bod,” the Read More »
Something unpleasant happened this morning when I went to wake the youngest up for school. I’m not going to go into details, not here. She didn’t want to get up. I pushed, little one pushed back…and she said some pretty hurtful things. The child brain in me wanted to respond in anger, but I didn’t. …
anger, patience, and chocolate mug cake Read More »
“So how are things these days,” she says. And she is sincere in the question. So I talk to her. Some things are amazing, wonderful, even nearly unreal and euphoric. Sure, it’s a tough time for us all these days– but the truth is my life is better for the quarantine than it was even …
what i learned as the invisible parent: a conversation with a fellow parent Read More »
I read this quote that said, “When a mom has a bad day, she’s allowed to vent. If a stepmom does the same, she’s stereotyped.” Of course feelings don’t listen to any of that. Of course stepmoms do get upset. But, you see, what they really mean isn’t that they aren’t allowed to show that …
kinky stepmoms are allowed to be upset, too Read More »
Something I saw from a friend, We teach our littles to be strong, we teach them to be brave, we teach them to get up when they fall and never give up on something they want. But there is a moment, it’s coming for all of us, where they walk confidently away from you. They …
you never know when they are listening (a gentle word of caution to kinky parents) Read More »
“[My] kids come first in everything…We live and breathe for our children. When they are grown and have families of their own then we will have our time together again….No exceptions. I love my children far more than I love my husband!” “We raise our children to become independent, to leave us and make their …
how to be a great parent AND a fantastic partner Read More »
I hear about people’s escapades after they put kids to bed, but how do they do it? My friend asks. I mean, isn’t it loud? Good question. For anyone curious how to make it work, for anyone who struggles with this and wonders who the ‘successful’ people do it— well, I don’t wonder anymore. These …