On Polyamory
What does poly even mean, right? Almost anything, depending on the person. Kitty defines polyamory as “multiple loves” and applies the term specifically to multiple, committed, romantic relationships (i.e. you are poly IF you have/want/are seeking multiple persons in your life that you refer to as your romantic partners).
She muses whether the purest interpretation of polyamory could be applied to any sort of relationship, whether it’s monogamy, non monogamy, polygamy or any relationship structure. If polyamory could be a way of living and loving, generally speaking, whether you have multiple girlfriends or multiple platonic best friends. You could be polyAMORous and in a monoGAMous relationship. Or you could be polyamorous and in a polygamous relationship.
But for here- for the most part- polyamory relates to romance, sex/intimacy, and romantic relationships.
Polyamory is NOT Just about having or wanting many, loving relationships -almost- ALL people want this and have this. Just because they “only” have one (or no) romantic relationships doesn’t mean they don’t have multiple, loving NON romantic relationships. Please avoid appearing like you believe you’re the only one with “too much love” to give …
phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one Read More »
I swear, I didn’t make these up. True relationship quotes I found from vanilla folk about polyamory and ENM (some responses are from me, others from actual responses from strangers). “I mean, respect to those who make this work, but I can’t understand how they don’t murder each other out of jealousy.” “If your best …
people really are bad at relationships: part one Read More »
I’ve seen this come up time and time again. Especially related to how soooo many folks in polyamorous relationships don’t want to commit, are just looking to have fun, don’t want a “serious” relationship..and I keep hearing this word… Lazy. I thought I’d drop it here, for posterity’s sake. And to engage a bit of …
is it lazy to not have a primary partner? Read More »
In the movies, the “best” loves aren’t the first ones. Funny, isn’t it? In the movies, the main character often goes through several false attempt loves before they find their lasting connection. Sometimes they even need to experience those initial loves to appreciate their “last” love (at least so far as the movie goes.) This …
privilege of being His second love, the Read More »
I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …
when you’re polyamorous without the “amor” Read More »
Life is best when it’s two. So quoth the single and the attached. Marriage for two remains the goal, with its accompaniment of benefits and tax breaks. Restaurant specials are offered to Couples. The day to day conveniences of being in a Couple are supposedly all around us.
