What does poly even mean, right? Almost anything, depending on the person. Kitty defines polyamory as “multiple loves” and applies the term specifically to multiple, committed, romantic relationships (i.e. you are poly IF you have/want/are seeking multiple persons in your life that you refer to as your romantic partners).
She muses whether the purest interpretation of polyamory could be applied to any sort of relationship, whether it’s monogamy, non monogamy, polygamy or any relationship structure. If polyamory could be a way of living and loving, generally speaking, whether you have multiple girlfriends or multiple platonic best friends. You could be polyAMORous and in a monoGAMous relationship. Or you could be polyamorous and in a polygamous relationship.
But for here- for the most part- polyamory relates to romance, sex/intimacy, and romantic relationships.
Jealousy is a powerful driver. It can consume and destroy lives. I still remember the oldest munchkin, then age 6, sighing as she shook her head, “Jealousy.” (We were talking about her biological mother, and she brought the word up, not me.) But her mother feels jealousy over her children. I am at a loss …
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A reminder of the quote from More Than Two, “Make sure there are no monsters under your bed before you do it, because if there are any weak points in your relationship if there is anything you’re not sure about, if there are any little fears or insecurities you have polyamory will find them it …
further thoughts on “More Than Two”: you’ll never find “all” the monsters Read More »
I heard that promise many times before, but what they meant is they wanted to take the world from me and replace it with them. They didn’t want to give me the world; rather they wanted to hide me from it. They were afraid for me to go out in the world without them. Afraid …
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Ah, why do we do anything we do? I’m home relaxing this past weekend and watching TV. On my latest obsession, the female lead (Teresa Lisbon) is at home with her boyfriend. He asks her if she wants to watch Casablanca. “It’s about a woman who has to choose between two men.” He pauses a …
real reason I chose polyamory, the Read More »
Did you see the 30 Rock episode where Jon Hamm plays the eternally clueless, super sexy guy, because everybody is so in love with him they can’t criticize a single thing he does? Liz: You can’t put Gatorade on salmon. Drew: Yes you can – the hot Italian lady from the Food Network told me …
is polyamory better than monogamy? Read More »
“Compersion isn’t necessary in a relationship!” scream many in the polyamorous community. I understand it may be a difficult concept, but the truth is I find that sentiment, bluntly received, rather crap. If I care about your happiness in your life, and, yes, romantic relationships, I expect the same consideration in return. Why should I care …
earned compersion vs. “natural” compersion Read More »
I realize after my last post that not everyone may be familiar with the term unicorn. Hence, a brief explanation.
A quote from the author of More than Two, “Make sure there are no monsters under your bed before you do it, because if there are any weak points in your relationship if there is anything you’re not sure about, if there are any little fears or insecurities you have polyamory will find them it …
thoughts from “More Than Two”: it’s not just the “poly folk” Read More »
…nobody, but nobody, could take this moment from her. She sank into his arms at the end of another drawn out day. Why would someone want to hurt her like that? She didn’t understand. “You know I will never abandon you,” His words poured into her being. She knew, of course she knew, but the …
nobody could take Him away from her Read More »
I see it constantly. Couples seeking a bisexual woman. “Unicorn hunter!” they scream. There isn’t anything worse- in the polyamorous community- than wanting a “third.” Everyone wants their own perfect, SINGLE, female partner. Which, I guess, makes sense. It seems like such a dream for newly excited polyamorous couples. To find their perfect girlfriend. It’s …
when chased after unicorns are chasing their own unicorns Read More »