On Polyamory

What does poly even mean, right?  Almost anything, depending on the person. Kitty defines polyamory as “multiple loves” and applies the term specifically to multiple, committed, romantic relationships (i.e. you are poly IF you have/want/are seeking multiple persons in your life that you refer to as your romantic partners).

She muses whether the purest interpretation of polyamory could be applied to any sort of relationship, whether it’s monogamy, non monogamy, polygamy or any relationship structure.  If polyamory could be a way of living and loving, generally speaking, whether you have multiple girlfriends or multiple platonic best friends.  You could be polyAMORous and in a monoGAMous relationship.  Or you could be polyamorous and in a polygamous relationship.

But for here- for the most part- polyamory relates to romance, sex/intimacy, and romantic relationships.

further thoughts on “More Than Two”: you’ll never find “all” the monsters

A reminder of the quote from More Than Two, “Make sure there are no monsters under your bed before you do it, because if there are any weak points in your relationship if there is anything you’re not sure about, if there are any little fears or insecurities you have polyamory will find them it …

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earned compersion vs. “natural” compersion

“Compersion isn’t necessary in a relationship!” scream many in the polyamorous community. I understand it may be a difficult concept, but the truth is I find that sentiment, bluntly received, rather crap. If I care about your happiness in your life, and, yes, romantic relationships, I expect the same consideration in return. Why should I care …

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thoughts from “More Than Two”: it’s not just the “poly folk”

A quote from the author of More than Two, “Make sure there are no monsters under your bed before you do it, because if there are any weak points in your relationship if there is anything you’re not sure about, if there are any little fears or insecurities you have polyamory will find them it …

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when chased after unicorns are chasing their own unicorns

I see it constantly. Couples seeking a bisexual woman. “Unicorn hunter!” they scream.  There isn’t anything worse- in the polyamorous community- than wanting a “third.” Everyone wants their own perfect, SINGLE, female partner. Which, I guess, makes sense.  It seems like such a dream for newly excited polyamorous couples.  To find their perfect girlfriend.  It’s …

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