What does poly even mean, right? Almost anything, depending on the person. Kitty defines polyamory as “multiple loves” and applies the term specifically to multiple, committed, romantic relationships (i.e. you are poly IF you have/want/are seeking multiple persons in your life that you refer to as your romantic partners).
She muses whether the purest interpretation of polyamory could be applied to any sort of relationship, whether it’s monogamy, non monogamy, polygamy or any relationship structure. If polyamory could be a way of living and loving, generally speaking, whether you have multiple girlfriends or multiple platonic best friends. You could be polyAMORous and in a monoGAMous relationship. Or you could be polyamorous and in a polygamous relationship.
But for here- for the most part- polyamory relates to romance, sex/intimacy, and romantic relationships.
It’s a question I see come up now and again. Asexuals can absolutely be polyamorous, as romantic love does not have to be defined by sex. …but can aromantics be part of a ROMANTIC relationship structure, many ask? Well, yes and no. It depends on how you view romance. Is romance only flowers and Valentine’s …
can you be aromantic and polyamorous? Read More »
In the movies, the “best” loves aren’t the first ones. Funny, isn’t it? In the movies, the main character often goes through several false attempt loves before they find their lasting connection. Sometimes they even need to experience those initial loves to appreciate their “last” love (at least so far as the movie goes.) This …
privilege of being His second love, the Read More »
Polyamory is NOT Just about having or wanting many, loving relationships -almost- ALL people want this and have this. Just because they “only” have one (or no) romantic relationships doesn’t mean they don’t have multiple, loving NON romantic relationships. Please avoid appearing like you believe you’re the only one with “too much love” to give …
phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one Read More »
I swear, I didn’t make these up. True relationship quotes I found from vanilla folk about polyamory and ENM (some responses are from me, others from actual responses from strangers). “I mean, respect to those who make this work, but I can’t understand how they don’t murder each other out of jealousy.” “If your best …
people really are bad at relationships: part one Read More »
I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …
when you’re polyamorous without the “amor” Read More »
Do you want to try a polyamorous relationship for the first time? Open up an existing relationship? Date a partnered person? It’s bother harder, and easier, than you’ve likely been told. Being polyamorous is really no different than any other life. Especially if you have a few life skills already under your belt. Which…it might …
Okay, he’s cute, sexy, whatever. Have I thought about him? Maybe. I’m demi sexual in the sense that I need an emotional connection (even if it only exists in my silly little head), so I may not have any interest in yours…in particular. And you’ll probably never know. Flirting and general interest are generally defined …
no, i don’t want your husband: an explanation of ethical non monogamy Read More »
Are you familiar with a duprass? duprass – a karass of only two people, who almost always die within a week of each other. The typical example is a loving couple who work together for a great purpose. Cat’s Cradle, Kurt Vonnegut Most of us have multiple connections, multiple obligations in our lives. We all have …
degree to which we save ourselves or share ourselves: the heart of poly and love, the Read More »
…or maybe less. Maybe you were some offhand, one night stand. Not that there was anything wrong with that. You both wanted a bit of release. You found it with each other that night. Or maybe you started out as friends that grew into “more,” (though I dislike that concept as it imagines that friends …
dear poly “couple,” remember that you started out as secondary, too Read More »
Life is best when it’s two. So quoth the single and the attached. Marriage for two remains the goal, with its accompaniment of benefits and tax breaks. Restaurant specials are offered to Couples. The day to day conveniences of being in a Couple are supposedly all around us.