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There’s someone that I’ve been spending a lot of time talking with…
Thanks to @WisDomTakesfolly for this lovely description! There’s someone that I’ve been spending a lot of time talking with. That person and I have mutually agreed to take things slowly, building trust and establishing a solid foundation to see where things go. It’s a state that isn’t NRE. It’s a state that isn’t building a …

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I *know* monoamory is not for me!
please note: this is a satirical take at what most posts/profiles that unequivocally state “I know polyamory is not for me” sounds like to me. I tried it once. I really did. I gave it my all. I really did. The courtship. The destination wedding. The house with the picket fence, the 2 cars, the …

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happily ever what the fuck
22 years old and the rest of my life ahead of me. I'm standing at the end of an aisle that will lead me to you.
I’m a truly horrible domme
I have absolutely no desire to micromanage anyone. The pet has been on this earth 21 more years than I have. In that time he's perfected the art of managing himself. He's done pretty well before I came along and if a rogue city bus were to flatten me tomorrow, he'd be sad but he'd manage. I have no time to tell him what to eat and when to eat it. I have to make sure my youngest doesn't eat peanut butter and nutella every single meal. That's enough dietary monitoring for me.
[understanding what ‘makes’ a submissive & more] new research on the relationship between BDSM interest, trauma and attachment style
As a self identified kitten and submissive who does have an anxious avoidance attachment style, I found this quite educational. As with any research, please take this with a grain of salt and apply it to yourself as is relevant, but still, I wanted to share this with you! Yours truly, Kitten ____________________________________________ Reposted with …

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Here’s to Old Relationship Energy
I want to preface this by saying that I enjoy NRE. It’s new and exciting and fun. But I feel like I don’t see many writings on Old Relationship Energy. Which I, am really enjoying. So here’s to older relationship energy.
Stop trying to make me happy
That’s absurd! Crazy talk! Outlandish! Who wouldn’t want to be told by their spouse that they want to make you happy?
these things scare me
What if he loves her more? Then he fucking loves her more, and you either find that the love he has to offer you is enough, or it isn’t. If it is, you appreciate and reciprocate the shit out of that love, and you don’t compare how much love you’re getting. Its not halloween and the love isn’t you and your little brother’s candy haul. If it isn’t enough, you leave, and you don’t worry, because somebody out there is looking to share a giant pile of love with you.
there is no small enough
Over time, I learned to dampen my interactions with him when she was in the room. Talk less enthusiastically, touch less, be less happy. I learned to wait until she wouldn’t be around for a while to tell him funny stories, or talk about our common interests that she didn’t share.