Musings/Adventures/Dear Kitty
- what Commitment means, or what it has the potential to mean (*Black Mirror, Striking Vipers spoilers*)
- what s/he wants
- doll’s life, a
- it’s okay to Commit in polyamorous relationships
- petty assault and the reality of “no consequences”
- being second choice is actually pretty damn good
- “am I polyamorous?”: a fairly foolproof test
- conversation on sensualism, hedonism, and sapiosexuals
- are threesomes for you??? a quiz!
- understanding fire play: a basic primer
- understanding aftercare
- normalizing love and lovingness
- on shedding sexual (or romantic) ownership
- emotional abuse is abuse
- further thoughts on “More Than Two”: you’ll never find “all” the monsters
- you gave me the world
- honesty is a privilege we should all exercise when we have the ability
- funny how you’re suddenly ugly/fat/dangerous/a bitch AFTER you say “no”
- some days i pray for the awesome power of misguided strength
- real reason I chose polyamory, the
- they do get some”thing” out of it
- boy (or girl) who cried wolf, the
- don’t love yourself? try loving someone else
- hidden life of a Very Cherished Toy, the
- is polyamory “better” than monogamy?
- earned compersion vs. “natural” compersion
- short history of the unicorn: poly edition, a
- thoughts from “More Than Two”: it’s not just the “poly folk”
- TINY problem with unsolicited dick pics, the
- can you find two good things in your life?
- musings on jealousy
- sweetness of you, the
- tired of the lies
- when chased after unicorns are chasing their own unicorns
- sex worker services for WOMEN and COUPLES
- what it’s like to “date” a polyamorous, aromantic lover
- ripping off the blindfold
- what -exactly- are you waiting for, dear?
- top for a top?: when doms need to safeword
- mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition
- can you be aromantic and polyamorous?
- living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part two: the murmur of “noise”
- living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part one: on being “enough”
- privilege of being His second love, the
- meeting people vs connections
- i wanted to love you
- sometimes you’re not enough
- snowstorms, loneliness, beauty, joy, and scalding showers
- struggling with solopoly
- phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one
- people really are bad at relationships: part one
- never call your ex crazy
- oh, I keep falling in and out of love with you…and you…and you…
- is it lazy to not have a primary partner?
- understanding the existence of multiple, simultaneous relationships, OR when one ignores the 1+1=X rule
- when blood is thicker than water (and as precious)
- sorry, sweetheart, your pussy isn’t more magical than love
- social media, in its sincerest form, is a mirror of our lives (so check what you’re reflecting!)
- when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”
- 10(+) questions to help know if polyamorous relationships -could- be a compatible choice for you
- I may be “damaged,” but I don’t need to be alone
- be my nothing
- God, your relationships are so LAZY!
- let me be confused
- wanting other people doesn’t mean you’re less perfect (*spoilers to Undone Season 1*)
- nice to meet you, i’m childfree with three children
- loyalty and commitment in (and out of!) romantic relationships
- not forgetting vanilla
- letting go, holding on
- seeing them for who they are shouldn’t ruin them
- community talks: why i believe we need dungeons
- master sleeps with his teddy bear…no, titty bear…no, tiddy bear?
- dr. seuss presents kink: are you kinky in a house? are you kinky with your spouse?
- do i want the happily ever after?
- no, i don’t want your husband: an explanation of ethical non monogamy
- why not allow a little more beauty into this world?
- you will (probably) miss the person you were before you became a mom (or parent) & it’s okay!
- downward dating spiral
- my kinky guardian angel may be a Sadist
- incredible subs, fantastic dom(mes)
- practicing kindness in little ways: a gentle approach to daily life
- unicorns & unicorn hunters, the real story! (hint, it’s not a bi woman who dates couples!)
- i’d rather not be alone, thank you
- ruby rule: when you treat people better than you want to be treated, the
- feelings are valid != feelings are facts
- to those who say, “you’ll find them when you stop looking”
- handling the “I want to be your friend, but I’m scared of it turning into more…” talk
- reevaluating, “abused people, abuse people”
- free play vs. game play: a distilled approach to kink
- my life as a “middle,” OR what it means to have “middle tendencies”
- some of us need to learn to be a “we,” some of us need to learn to be a “me,” and some of us need to stop worrying about it
- plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 3: congratulations, you found your perfect monogamous dom!
- pretty, little kitty: a poem
- picture perfect Love vs. Love
- what I want in a metamour
- dealing with the “how long have you been in the lifestyle” icebreaker question
- relationships that are wants, and the relationships that are needs, the
- don’t tell me to hold out for a hero
- how to treat someone like an option that treats you like an option
- i did pick one
- “one twue wayism is the WORST….except when i think it’s fine.”
- being a “bad mom” is easier AND more fun!
- do you want to be my first thought? then let’s be willing to be each other’s afterthoughts.
- many looks of the “mommy bod,” the
- awww, you think you can make me jealous? that’s adorable.
- sweetness of many loves, OR what I love about love, the
- when abuse is the only kink someone knows
- chasing the ocean, the ocean chases me
- joy and peril of perfection, the
- “It’s so lovely you made a friend,” they say, and I want to say, “…but how do you know that she’s a friend?”
- i cannot only be a [_______]
- it’s harder to disappoint the ones that love you than you think
- degree to which we save ourselves or share ourselves: the heart of poly and love, the
- love isn’t always consensual but it can be ethical
- don’t be the worse version they want you to be
- sharing love is a beautiful thing
- dear poly “couple,” remember that you started out as secondary, too
- on the merits of saying, “you’re welcome”
- that little spark
- you can be my safe place, even if i’m not in love with you
- do you ever miss that past love?
- why i don’t “push” past the no (or try not to!), a.k.a. attempting not to be a hypocrite
- dear people who go to munches and are consequently disappointed,
- dear prospective superheroes in hopes of finding their destiny,
- fascination of “love bombing” & other toxic behaviors, the
- mother’s day can be bittersweet
- plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 2: where have all the good (monogamous) doms gone?
- if you want to break up with me, break up with me
- wasting your twenties on “finding yourself” isn’t a waste
- when I put a whole raw chicken into the oven, my chocolate chip cookies came out tasting funny, OR why polyamory doesn’t work sometimes
- three shall be the number of thy counting
- societal failures in communication
- orgasms! a simple guide
- metamour is essentially the poly equivalent of an in-law: a brief(ish) analysis, a
- consent is a conversation, or that time at the gas station my debit card got flagged for fraud
- consent is not the same as enthusiastic consent
- if they say they are the -only- one for you, they might also be the very worst for you
- rubber duckies aren’t just for littles (& many more things that are for everyone!)
- real and fake benefits of monogamy and non monogamy
- relationships are a marble statue, not an oak tree
- what i learned as the invisible parent: a conversation with a fellow parent
- fear of being you, the
- (s)he belongs to you for a reason
- one lazy afternoon with my girls, OR why we all need a ‘safe space’
- i didn’t know it was going to be you
- is all damage “good damage”?
- things you might want to avoid saying to a polyamorous person (because they might respond honestly)
- diane from bojack horseman: “but mostly, it’s just the famous people, right?”
- how to avoid a cheater
- it’s not always about the crisis
- polyamorous relationships shouldn’t be the first opportunity to learn How To Relationship
- on being a great parent AND a fantastic partner
- if you give a little a stuffy
- when it comes to relationships, (sometimes) sweat the small stuff
- i’m a submissive, even when i’m sick
- polyamory in casablanca (**yes, some spoilers**)
- princess vs little vs kitten; a mixed up fairytale
- opposite of blue is aromantic, the
- “IRE,” an alternative to “NRE”
- if they offer you “almost everything,” take it
- chocolate ice cream, kink, & sex
- when two robots fall in love: a story about compersion
- plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 1: dear pretty, mono girl
- gentle tides of life wash away another layer of sand, the
- “but the thing is…”
- open letter to the married man i haven’t yet rejected, an
- kinky review: “professor marston and the wonder women”
- on demisexuals and “little strings”
- dear unicorn hunters, it’s not unicorn hunting that’s the problem, it’s you
- more I water and care for my garden, the more it produces, the
- when you’re just a little different from your metamours
- what would you do if i fell in love with someone else?
- why someone dismisses another’s kind words
- actually, romance isn’t dead
- when they fall in love with you
- trust isn’t necessary to be a fucking decent person
- stay single until— an analysis & an observation
- one twue way of cake baking, the
- happiness is a choice: lessons from my mother
- forgiveness culture isn’t bullshit, it’s [my] survival
- poly? kinky? relationships are just relationships: my vanilla manifesto
- polyamory & ice cream
- pride in being owned, my
- existential threat of a kinky, flirty, polyamorous mastermind unicorn, the
- “why are there foam acoustic panels on your bedroom walls?” & other solutions for kinksters who are parents
- [sub] drop IS an actual thing, thanks
- you’re okay, valentine’s day
- when you get almost everything you want, AKA the stupid, spoiled bitch syndrome
- single life isn’t unhappy, the
- sometimes joys of living together, the
- when love is a gift
- how to bring a date to a munch: kitty edition!
- If kinky folk talked about Dom(mes) like vanilla people talk about Parents, AKA, “Well, most dom(mes) are just doing their best, alright?”
- lessons on “green flags”: pt 2: how do you know if it’s real?
- i crave being owned, as she craves a white wedding gown or bruises
- lessons on “green flags”: pt 1: when someone isn’t who you think they are
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