Musings/Adventures/Dear Kitty
- phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one
- people really are bad at relationships: part one
- how to be beautiful AND a slut
- picture perfect Love vs. Love
- understanding the existence of multiple, simultaneous relationships, OR when one ignores the 1+1=X rule
- oh, I keep falling in and out of love with you…and you…and you…
- microaggressions & playing Magic with the Red cards
- is it lazy to not have a primary partner?
- pieces of communication
- social media, in its sincerest form, is a mirror of our lives
- sorry, sweetheart, your pussy isn’t more magical than love
- conversation with kitty & a confused pervert: “don’t just LET us be brats to you!”
- translating your unicorn into a “shooting star”
- silly little thoughts of a ptsd survivor
- incredible subs attract incredible dom(mes), fantastic dom(mes) get fantastic subs
- privilege of being His second love, the
- when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”
- 10(+) questions to help know if polyamorous relationships -could- be a compatible choice for you
- God, your relationships are so LAZY!
- let me be confused
- of course there’s a chance they will leave you!
- wanting other people doesn’t mean you’re less perfect (*spoilers to Undone Season 1*)
- be my nothing
- long overdue pleasure, a
- forgetting vanilla
- master sleeps with his teddy bear…no, titty bear…no, tiddy bear?
- community talks: why i believe we need dungeons
- love isn’t everything
- no, i don’t want your husband: an explanation of ethical non monogamy
- dr. seuss presents kink: are you kinky in a house? are you kinky with your spouse?
- you will (probably) miss the person you were before you became a mom (or parent) & it’s okay!
- why not allow a little more beauty into this world?
- do i want the happily ever after?
- seeing them for who they are shouldn’t ruin them
- my kinky guardian angel may be a Sadist
- choose to be kind in an unkind world
- practicing kindness in little ways: a gentle approach to daily life
- unicorns & unicorn hunters, the real story! (hint, it’s not a bi woman who dates couples!)
- if they want you, they want you; if they don’t, they don’t
- i’d rather not be alone, thank you
- feelings are valid != feelings are facts
- plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 3: congratulations, you found your perfect monogamous dom!
- reevaluating, “abused people, abuse people”
- only thing that matters, the
- free play vs. game play: a distilled approach to kink
- my life as a “middle” (sort of)
- some of us need to learn to be a “we,” some of us need to learn to be a “me,” and some of us…
- what a dom wants, what a sub needs
- handling the “I want to be your friend, but I’m scared of it turning into more…” talk
- sexuality is not trendy
- pretty, little kitty: the essence of a kinky kitten
- funny how you’re suddenly ugly/fat/dangerous/a bitch AFTER you say “no”
- dealing with the “how long have you been in the lifestyle” icebreaker question
- relationships that are wants, and the relationships that are needs, the
- don’t tell me to hold out for a hero
- treating someone like an option that treats you like an option
- “one twue wayism is the WORST….except when i think it’s fine.”
- being a “bad mom” is easier AND more fun!
- do you want to be my first thought? then let’s be willing to be each other’s afterthoughts.
- many looks of the “mommy bod,” the
- awww, you think you can make me jealous? that’s adorable.
- sweetness of many loves, OR what I love about love, the
- everybody deserves to be loved, yes, that means everyone
- chasing the ocean, the ocean chases me
- love letter to a narcissist, a
- joy and peril of perfection, the
- what -exactly- are you waiting for, dear?
- anger, patience, and chocolate mug cake
- “It’s so lovely you made a friend,” they say, and I want to say, “…but how do you know that she’s a friend?”
- i cannot only be a slave
- degree to which we save ourselves or share ourselves: the heart of poly and love, the
- don’t be the worse version they want you to be
- lessons on “green flags”: pt 2: how do you know if it’s real?
- i crave being owned
- lessons on “green flags”: pt 1: when someone isn’t who you think they are
- “but the thing is…”
- sharing the love
- dear poly “couple,” remember that you started out as secondary, too
- on the merits of saying, “you’re welcome”
- please be her treat
- “I am an author,” I told her
- perfect plan, the
- that little spark
- you can be my safe place, even if i’m not in love with you
- ok, the thing is I actually love “love bombing”
- dear people who go to munches and are consequently disappointed,
- dear prospective superheroes in hopes of finding their destiny,
- do you ever miss that past love?
- plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 2: where have all the good (monogamous) doms gone?
- trust isn’t necessary to be a fucking decent person
- wasting your twenties on “finding yourself” isn’t necessarily a waste
- when I put a whole raw chicken into the oven, my chocolate chip cookies came out tasting funny
- three shall be the number of thy counting
- we remember feelings, not events
- orgasms! a simple guide
- metamour is essentially the poly equivalent of an in-law: a brief(ish) analysis, a
- consent is a conversation, or that time at the gas station my debit card got flagged for fraud
- consent is not the same as enthusiastic consent
- if they are the -only- one for you, they might also be the very worst for you
- rubber duckies aren’t just for littles (& many more things that are for everyone!)
- real and fake benefits of monogamy and non monogamy
- relationships are a marble statue, not an oak tree
- what i learned as the invisible parent: a conversation with a fellow parent
- “you are the only one that needs to know”
- when I say I’m a “good” submissive
- closer look at jealousy, by a very overly confident kitten, a
- fear of being you, the
- kinky folk, we (can) teach our children to love..but we (can) also incline our children to hate
- s/he belongs to you for a reason
- it’s okay to Commit in polyamorous relationships
- is all damage “good damage”?
- things you might want to avoid saying to a polyamorous person (because they might respond honestly)
- submissives aren’t wallflowers
- prettiness fades, beauty lasts
- KinkyCast Features St Kitty’s, “Sweat the Small Stuff”: Podcast Version
- how to avoid a cheater
- sometimes, it’s not even about the crisis
- echoism: the quiet sibling of narcissism
- poly shouldn’t be the only place to learn something new
- how to be a great parent AND a fantastic partner
- if you give a little a stuffy
- why it’s okay for polyamory to -sometimes- be about sex
- kinky parents, play games with your child, because you’re both worth it
- princess vs little vs kitten; a mixed up fairytale
- when it comes to relationships, sweat the small stuff
- polyamory in casablanca (**yes, some spoilers**)
- ruby rule: when you treat people better than you want to be treated, the
- opposite of blue is aromantic, the
- my “NRE” loves: pt 2: kitty makes a confession
- if they offer you “almost everything,” take it
- chocolate ice cream, kink, & sex
- when two robots fall in love: a story about compersion
- pleasure is my kink
- plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 1: dear pretty, mono girl
- gentle tides of life wash away another layer of sand, the
- awakened by desire
- open letter to the married man i haven’t yet rejected, an
- kitty’s review of “professor marston and the wonder women”
- on demisexuals and “little strings”
- dear unicorn hunters, it’s not unicorn hunting that’s the problem, it’s you
- more I water and care for my garden, the more it produces, the
- when you’re just a little different from your metamours
- what would you do if i fell in love with someone else?
- meet me in the boiler room
- why someone dismisses another’s kind words
- actually, romance isn’t dead
- when they fall in love with you
- if you want to break up with me, break up with me
- stay single until— an analysis & an observation
- it doesn’t count if it’s a girl
- art of the followup question in relationships, the
- love as thou wilt
- one twue way of cake baking, the
- why i stay polite to strangers
- happiness is a choice: lessons from my mother
- forgiveness culture isn’t bullshit, it’s [my] survival
- when abuse is the only kink someone knows
- “why are there foam acoustic panels on your bedroom walls?” & other solutions for kinksters who are parents
- [sub] drop IS an actual thing, thanks
- you’re okay, valentine’s day
- perspective of a 24/7 sub
- struggling with solopoly
- [my] single life isn’t unhappy
- on emotional toxicity
- my “NRE” loves: pt 1: i don’t know you, but i think i love you
- short history of the unicorn: poly edition, a
- kinkiness of the phantom of the opera, the
- sometimes joys of living together, the
- when love is a gift
| Category/Musings (2) | Post |
| On Empathy & Awareness | fear of being you, the |
| “It’s so lovely you made a friend,” they say, and I want to say, “…but how do you know that she’s a friend?” |
| Category/Dear Kitty (3) | Post |
| Kitty Does Relationships | i like her, but i have issues with her daddy |
| managing feelings of guilt as a “single secondary” | |
| scheduling poly dating life and childcare: how do you make them both work? |