Life of A Poly, Kinky Parent

“why are there foam acoustic panels on your bedroom walls?” & other solutions for kinksters who are parents
I hear about people’s escapades after they put kids to bed, but how do they do it? My friend asks.  I mean, isn’t it loud? Good question.  For anyone curious how to make it work, for anyone who struggles with this and wonders who the ‘successful’ people do it— well, I don’t wonder anymore.  These …

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how to be a great parent AND a fantastic partner
“[My] kids come first in everything…We live and breathe for our children. When they are grown and have families of their own then we will have our time together again….No exceptions. I love my children far more than I love my husband!” “We raise our children to become independent, to leave us and make their …

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what i learned as the invisible parent: a conversation with a fellow parent
“So how are things these days,” she says. And she is sincere in the question. So I talk to her. Some things are amazing, wonderful, even nearly unreal and euphoric. Sure, it’s a tough time for us all these days– but the truth is my life is better for the quarantine than it was even …

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i don’t want her to be one of the broken ones
I don’t always want to stay. I am a kitten, and a kitten can often be skittish. A kitten wants to be loved, yes, but doesn’t always know how to ask for it or find it. I am, indeed, one of the lucky ones. Why do I stay? I stay because of little moments like …

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anger, patience, and chocolate mug cake
Something unpleasant happened this morning when I went to wake the youngest up for school. I’m not going to go into details, not here. She didn’t want to get up. I pushed, little one pushed back…and she said some pretty hurtful things. The child brain in me wanted to respond in anger, but I didn’t. …

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watermelon thoughts
Summer's faded into autumn. It's my favorite time of the year. Pretty sweaters, cozy lazy dresses and brisk, cool weather. It's the end of the watermelon season.
many looks of the “mommy bod,” the
I’m out with friends the other night. One girl– my friend’s friend visiting from out of town– doesn’t finish her last drink. Of course I’m the one that downs it (supposedly impressively quickly, but, hey, I’m tired and I want to get home.). I don’t know if I instinctively don’t want to waste a perfectly …

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being a “bad mom” is easier AND more fun!
“Being a mom must be hard,” she says. It’s true- to an extent. But I’ve got a dirty little secret for you. Sssshhh, come closer!
slice of rainbow cake, a
It’s important to treasure the little moments. Plenty of bitter, petty, strife filled bits of life. If one doesn’t focus on the good, it’s all too easy to be swamped in the awful. Sure, it’s silly. But tonight, master, myself, and the oldest munchkin are on a grocery run. We’re out of milk (of course!). …

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