“What is Life?” “What is Love?” Perspectives on the meaning of life, love, and everything– from the perspective of a Curious Kitten! Share in her reflections, as she attempts to understand the most important things in life.

Greed is normal, jealousy is normal. But what does “normal” even mean? Is it what is common? What is natural? What is right? I go to a doctor, I say I’m feeling “normal” today. My chronic pain is “normal.” That, of course, differs from those with lesser or greater chronic pain. It is, however, normal …

(Reposted from an earlier writing I abandoned for a bit. Inspired to share again by a fellow kinkster, @LovelyLolaTX) “If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” “If you don’t love you, why would anyone else?” “Learn to love yourself if you want someone to love you.” I don’t buy it. Not because …

Look, I know what you want to say. “But women do the same thing! Women love showing off their bodies!” You aren’t wrong, entirely. You aren’t entirely right, either. I’m sorry for the shorthand terminology associated with unwanted dick pictures. It really isn’t about the “unsolicited.” At least not primarily. I get “unsolicited pussy pics” …

Two things. Just. Two. Good. Things. Sometimes life is rough. Can you find two good things in your life? Some people don’t have that. It’s a gift to have two wonderful, amazing, unbelievable things in one’s life. Two things you can rely on. That give you undeniable, unimaginable pleasure. Just think of two good, I …

Jealousy is an odd creature. Somewhat elusive, but incredibly pervasive. Oftentimes ill defined and poorly examined. Perhaps it’s my current Nyquil-addled brain, but I’ve been thinking about this emotion. I think it’s a fair assumption to say we generally think of jealousy as defensive love in vanilla culture. “You are mine, your love and affection …

I understand hesitancy in romance. Okay, I might jump into bed with near strangers- but I am slower to connect emotionally. I instinctively freeze whenever I meet someone new. Even when I first met my master. He wasn’t right for me; I had strong feelings about his partner choices; I was a total mess and …

Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages: What does love mean to you? Look like? How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …
mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition Read More »

There’s a lot of noise and confusion as you come into your own, as a queer person. For context, I have at least one child who is going through an active period of questioning and evolving her sexuality. At twelve, she’s already dealing with her own “noise.” Is she confused? Not really. Not anymore than …

… can be exhausting. Justifying. Explaining. Listening to second hand lies. Of what or who I am, according to those who haven’t bothered to ask me. I am not queer enough. I am not attracted to enough bodies (why can’t you be pansexual?). Not loving enough, etc. etc. I live with a man, I play …
living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part one: on being “enough” Read More »