On Polyamory

When one love simply isn’t enough, what does one do? Sink into one’s own pity? Or seek more love in places one never expected to find it? Healthy relationships are healthy relationships; polyamory is very little different than anything else. Find out what Kitty means as you delve into the world of polyamory!

nobody could take Him away from her
…nobody, but nobody, could take this moment from her. She sank into his arms at the end of another drawn out day.  Why would someone want to hurt her like that?  She didn’t understand. “You know I will never abandon you,” His words poured into her being.  She knew, of course she knew, but the …

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when unicorns are unicorn hunting too
I see it constantly. Couples seeking a bisexual woman. “Unicorn hunter!” they scream. It’s annoying behavior, at the very least, especially those who complain how “hard” it is to find a “third.” Please. At worst, the unsuspecting woman ends up used and discarded. …but that’s not all I see. I see this kind of woman, …

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on shedding sexual (or romantic) ownership
Jealousy is a powerful driver. It can consume and destroy lives.  I still remember the oldest munchkin, then age 6, sighing as she shook her head, “Jealousy.”  (We were talking about her biological mother, and she brought the word up, not me.) But her mother feels jealousy over her children.  I am at a loss …

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can you be aromantic and polyamorous?
It’s a question I see come up now and again. Asexuals can absolutely be polyamorous, as romantic love does not have to be defined by sex. …but can aromantics be part of a ROMANTIC relationship structure, many ask? Well, yes and no. It depends on how you view romance. Is romance only flowers and Valentine’s …

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privilege of being His second love, the
In the movies, the “best” loves aren’t the first ones.  Funny, isn’t it?  In the movies, the main character often goes through several false attempt loves before they find their lasting connection. Sometimes they even need to experience those initial loves to appreciate their “last” love (at least so far as the movie goes.) This …

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phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one
Polyamory is NOT Just about having or wanting many, loving relationships -almost- ALL people want this and have this. Just because they “only” have one (or no) romantic relationships doesn’t mean they don’t have multiple, loving NON romantic relationships. Please avoid appearing like you believe you’re the only one with “too much love” to give …

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people really are bad at relationships: part one
I swear, I didn’t make these up. True relationship quotes I found from vanilla folk about polyamory and ENM (some responses are from me, others from actual responses from strangers). “I mean, respect to those who make this work, but I can’t understand how they don’t murder each other out of jealousy.” “If your best …

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when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”
I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …

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10(+) questions to help know if polyamorous relationships -could- be a compatible choice for you
Do you want to try a polyamorous relationship for the first time? Open up an existing relationship?  Date a partnered person? It’s bother harder, and easier, than you’ve likely been told.  Being polyamorous is really no different than any other life.  Especially if you have a few life skills already under your belt.  Which…it might …

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