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understanding the existence of multiple, simultaneous relationships, OR when one ignores the 1+1=X rule

I am not a mathematical person. I cannot tell you if 1+1=2, mathematically speaking. I know there are arguments, apparently both ways, where some say one plus one equals two– and some say it does not. Don’t ask me for the mathematical proof, please. I am, however, a relationship person. In relationships, 1+1=X.  I would …

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community talks: why i believe we need dungeons

Not everyone needs a dungeon. But not everyone will need a heart surgeon, either. That doesn’t negate the need to keep one around. I love house parties, too. But it’s a whole different atmosphere. They don’t replace dungeons. Perhaps part of the problem is that we don’t understand the value. A few recent events have …

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ruby rule: when you treat people better than you want to be treated, the

As the old year winds down and the new year approaches, this is one of my commitments to myself. I feel this is quite a lot, considering I don’t generally like rules. I am breaking my own standard to create a new rule, at least for myself. The Golden Rule: Treat others how YOU want …

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free play vs. game play: a distilled approach to kink

Kink, I think, is play. What else defines it apart from “vanilla”? After all, kink may not necessarily involve whips, chains, stilettos, or anything the 50 Shades culture associates with kink. Kink, I hope!, is not a means of feeling superior or enlightened. Nor using code words to make others feel disconnected from the conversation. …

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my life as a “middle,” OR what it means to have “middle tendencies”

I am not a little. I actually rather looked down on the DD/lg dynamic.  I allowed others to encourage me to be dismissive of littles. Littles, brats, ugh.  Just grown (usually) women who couldn’t take care of themselves. But as time went on, not only did I make friends with brats and littles, but I …

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