Women, I need you to listen to something, I am not your competition. We are not each other’s competition. Of this, I can assure you. Life will throw plenty of obstacles your way. It will create competition at every step of the journey. We needn’t make it worse by competing among each other. That other …
women2women: womenfolk (or femme presenting) are not your competition Read More »
She is wild, unpredictable, but she calls to me and her voice is soothing and sweet among the crashing waves. She sings to me, sometimes it feels only me. Yet I know she is singing to any and all who dare to approach her. I miss the ocean. It’s lovely to have water nearby, but …
chasing the ocean, the ocean chases me Read More »
I am perfect. Congratulations, me, achievement unlocked! ….except of course I am not. Perhaps practically perfect in every way. But I am, in all sincerity, at the best I’ve ever been in my life. I am stable, secure in my values, know precisely what I want and need moving forward. I have more to offer than ever …
joy and peril of perfection, the Read More »
Fyi, this works in reverse for the “pretty” guys, the tall, handsome Chris Hemsworth look alike searching out their one, true, monogamous submissive love. Switch genders, or even sexes, as you like: Dear pretty, monogamous girl in search of her one true dominant, Remember high school? Maybe you were the pretty head cheerleader who never …
plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 1: dear pretty, mono girl Read More »
“Until it feels easy.” My kitten brain sighs, “Until WHAT feels easy?”** It’s nice to say, “Being single is fun and easy!”— and certainly I do think being single is underrated. …but it isn’t always easy. The 24/7, confident, hair whipping woman in the powersuit, breastfeeding whilst commanding a conference call via her bluetooth …
stay single until— an analysis & an observation Read More »
I learned many lessons from my family growing up. I learned lessons from my siblings, from my mentors, from my friends. The second most important lesson I received from my mother was this: Happiness is a choice. At the Las Vegas “Life is Beautiful” festival, the year it first began, I painted this sentiment on a …
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I didn’t sign up for you to never change I didn’t sign up for you to be bisexual or poly or mono or anything I didn’t sign up for you to be who you are – a poem by the kitty “I didn’t sign up for this!” I hate this phrase. That’s very likely true. …
i don’t “sign up” for anything but memberships Read More »
I owe a lot to kink. Kink has not only helped me realize who I am… it forced me. Sometimes it’s influence is the barest hint of a breath. Sometimes it is a violent gale. The more I learned about my kinky self and the kinky world, the more I love and accept myself. The …
how kink changed my identity in ways vanilla life never did Read More »
Are some of us superbeings? Stronger, faster, able to leap tall buildings? More capable of empathy, love, devotion, honesty? Are some of us more perfectly suited to succeed and be happy? Some would say that those of us that fall into a terrible place did so because it couldn’t be helped. They pity these …
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I’ll repeat; I resent the prevailing negativity within online “lifestyle” communities. Makes it seem like that’s the standard. The default. Yes, people have problems in polyamorous relationships. It’s called having relationships.