being a “bad mom” is easier AND more fun!
“Being a mom must be hard,” she says. It’s true- to an extent. But I’ve got a dirty little secret for you. Sssshhh, come closer!
loving yourself
what -exactly- are you waiting for, dear?
I understand hesitancy in romance. I’m that way myself (now, hold on, friends who are raising their eyebrows, let me explain!). Yes, I might jump in bed rather quickly or strip first at a party. …but hold on for a moment. When I first met my master, I thought about waiting to open myself up …
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can you name your harm?
I was inspired to do this recently by a friend. I’ve shared stories of my personal harm, but I’ve never listed them simply and succinctly. These are not all about the same person who inflicted the harm upon me. You wanted me valued only for my body, not my mind– and that not very much, …
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why i don’t “push” past the no (or try not to!), a.k.a. attempting not to be a hypocrite
I told someone the other day that I never push past the no. “I would never do that,” I say. “There’s absolutely no point, anyway, and it violates their consent. If they decline your pursuit, respect that.” “But what if they really want you to chase them?,” they ask me. “What if they do,” I …
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mother’s day is bittersweet for me
I woke up. Showered. Came back to find the bed freshly made and the little pillows properly placed. I love clean sheets. I’m such a domestic, no? And on the pillow, on my side of the bed, is a card. Now, I’ve never gotten a card for Mother’s Day before. But these days, I’m feeling …
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ugly people aren’t broken or missing pieces
“A full person is always more than the sum of her parts and she is beautiful.” Someone wrote this on a piece I stumbled upon. I’ve seen the sentiment elsewhere, which is why this stuck with me. What a lovely thought. A full person, surrounded by friends, love, everything, is beautiful. She may not have …
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it’s rarely too late, but you can never get back time
The years you spend unhappy, the years you spend swallowed up in pride– you never get that time back. I would love to lie and sell you a fantasy, but you’ll only wake up from the dream and it will turn into your nightmare. And so I ask this of each and every person out …
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my scars are my erogenous zone
Some women see their scars as flaws. Some accept them as a part of life. I…love my scars. They are memories drawn on my skin. I have, in fact, a soft spot for the differences that are my scars. Because you may not realize this little known fact about scars, but at least in my …
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if i wanted to date a perfect (ly boring) body, i’d date a sex bot
She is beautiful, coin operated, yes, but quite lovely. She is a toy; a doll; a fantasy. Whatever you wish for is hers to provide. Well, of a sort, anyway. She certainly has her limitations, but, after all, isn’t that somewhat of the point? Limited wants, desires, needs. She is never “too much,” though she …
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i might be mary poppins
I am not perfect, by any means. But when I strain my recollection, as far back as I can remember, I cannot isolate a single incident of ever wanting to be anyone but me. I’ve never watched a romantic comedy and thought anything but, “That was fun, but thank God I’m not that person. I …
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