Jealousy is normal. Of course it is, why wouldn’t it be in a world where jealousy is taught to us from the earliest ages. When everything around us is a competition. When we’re taught we need to be someone’s possession above all else, and they must be ours. I am his, and he is mine. …
closer look at jealousy by a very overly confident kitten, a Read More »
Toxic positivity. Freaking everywhere. I don’t even know where to begin to handle the problem. I hear a lot of people say, “If I did let my relationship become non monogamous, my partner would leave me.” A lot of people will tell them, “No, no that’s not what ENM is about! That’s not what will …
…it is, I swear. Commitment is such a strange word. Some of us are terrified of it. Some of us believe others are scared of it, or at least tell ourselves that. I keep seeing this myth perpetrated that people are attracted to polyamory because they are “scared of commitment,” which sounds absurd in a …
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Jealousy is a powerful driver. It can consume and destroy lives. I still remember the oldest munchkin, then age 6, sighing as she shook her head, “Jealousy.” (We were talking about her biological mother, and she brought the word up, not me.) But her mother feels jealousy over her children. I am at a loss …
I think that’s the wrong question. I don’t want to be asked if my relationship style is “better.” I want to be asked if my relationships are better. And, specifically, better than they used to be. I believe I can safely answer, “Yes.” Not because I’ve met better people. I hate that assumption. I believe we …
Polyamory is NOT Just about having or wanting many, loving relationships -almost- ALL people want this and have this. Just because they “only” have one (or no) romantic relationships doesn’t mean they don’t have multiple, loving NON romantic relationships. Please avoid appearing like you believe you’re the only one with “too much love” to give …
phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one Read More »
I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …
Are you familiar with a duprass? duprass – a karass of only two people, who almost always die within a week of each other. The typical example is a loving couple who work together for a great purpose. Cat’s Cradle, Kurt Vonnegut Most of us have multiple connections, multiple obligations in our lives. We all have …
degree to which we save ourselves or share ourselves: the heart of poly and love, the Read More »
Fake Benefits of Non-Monogamy: 1) You will never be alone. 2) You will have constant, amazing threesomes. 3) Dating will be easier.
[Polyamory] forces us to contend with the hubris of monogamy, [a] false arrogance about who we are in a relationship that never has to be tested or contended with at all [in our] monogamous relationship. I cannot remember when or where I had this conversation with a friend of mine. Discussing, among other topics of …