poly essentials

when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”

I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …

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of course there’s a chance they will leave you!

Toxic positivity. Freaking everywhere. I don’t even know where to begin to handle the problem.  I hear a lot of people say, “If I did let my relationship become non monogamous, my partner would leave me.” A lot of people will tell them, “No, no that’s not what ENM is about! That’s not what will …

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poly shouldn’t be the only place to learn something new

[Polyamory] forces us to contend with the hubris of monogamy, [a] false arrogance about who we are in a relationship that never has to be tested or contended with at all [in our] monogamous relationship. I cannot remember when or where I had this conversation with a friend of mine. Discussing, among other topics of …

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