polyamory

if they want you, they want you; if they don’t, they don’t

Nobody wants to feel unwanted. It’s one of the worst feelings, stupid, petty, gross. Doesn’t even have any self righteousness to it, like betrayal. Being unwanted just sucks. Unfortunately, it’s all too common. Dating polyamorously means I end up dating a lot. Or sort of dating? I don’t even know anymore. But whatever it is, …

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sigh, some days I really just want to show off my partners!

I feel the word trapped in my throat— when I talk about someone in my life, but leave off the exact nature of our relationship. Feels like I’m hiding, lying. I’ve seen this frustration expressed a million times, someone wishing they didn’t have to hide their partners. Doesn’t feel good, perhaps unethical. It’s wrong to …

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sweetness of many loves, OR what I love about love, the

blessed is she, the kitten showered with lovesent from her ever faithful kinky guardian angelthis kitten must be adored, spanked, and seensmiling from her boudoir in the clouds,telling her, “be safe, little kitten, and be loved.” she loves how love feelsawash in love, it warms her from withinlifts her higher than she believed possiblewraps her …

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scheduling poly dating life and childcare: how do you make them both work?

Dear Kitty, My wife and I had a difficult time with scheduling and childcare this weekend. At one point, she said, “It hurts my feelings that you don’t think my time with my romantic partner is more important than your plans to [just] go to a play party.” Frankly, I felt slut shamed by the …

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these things scare me

What if he loves her more? Then he fucking loves her more, and you either find that the love he has to offer you is enough, or it isn’t. If it is, you appreciate and reciprocate the shit out of that love, and you don’t compare how much love you’re getting. Its not halloween and the love isn’t you and your little brother’s candy haul. If it isn’t enough, you leave, and you don’t worry, because somebody out there is looking to share a giant pile of love with you.