Toxic positivity. Freaking everywhere. I don’t even know where to begin to handle the problem. I hear a lot of people say, “If I did let my relationship become non monogamous, my partner would leave me.” A lot of people will tell them, “No, no that’s not what ENM is about! That’s not what will …
of course there’s a chance they will leave you! Read More »
Nobody wants to feel unwanted. It’s one of the worst feelings, stupid, petty, gross. Doesn’t even have any self righteousness to it, like betrayal. Being unwanted just sucks. Unfortunately, it’s all too common. Dating polyamorously means I end up dating a lot. Or sort of dating? I don’t even know anymore. But whatever it is, …
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I feel the word trapped in my throat— when I talk about someone in my life, but leave off the exact nature of our relationship. Feels like I’m hiding, lying. I’ve seen this frustration expressed a million times, someone wishing they didn’t have to hide their partners. Doesn’t feel good, perhaps unethical. It’s wrong to …
sigh, some days I really just want to show off my partners! Read More »
blessed is she, the kitten showered with lovesent from her ever faithful kinky guardian angelthis kitten must be adored, spanked, and seensmiling from her boudoir in the clouds,telling her, “be safe, little kitten, and be loved.” she loves how love feelsawash in love, it warms her from withinlifts her higher than she believed possiblewraps her …
sweetness of many loves, OR what I love about love, the Read More »
Jealousy is normal. Of course it is, why wouldn’t it be in a world where jealousy is taught to us from the earliest ages. When everything around us is a competition. When we’re taught we need to be someone’s possession above all else, and they must be ours. I am his, and he is mine. …
closer look at jealousy, by a very overly confident kitten, a Read More »
please note: this is a satirical take at what most posts/profiles that unequivocally state “I know polyamory is not for me” sounds like to me. I tried it once. I really did. I gave it my all. I really did. The courtship. The destination wedding. The house with the picket fence, the 2 cars, the …
I *know* monoamory is not for me! Read More »
Dear Kitty, My wife and I had a difficult time with scheduling and childcare this weekend. At one point, she said, “It hurts my feelings that you don’t think my time with my romantic partner is more important than your plans to [just] go to a play party.” Frankly, I felt slut shamed by the …
scheduling poly dating life and childcare: how do you make them both work? Read More »
Dear Kitty, I’m in a relationship with a poly partner. I’m not sure he would agree as he cites how significant I am to him, but I’d class his wife as his primary and myself as a secondary, however his relationship with his wife is not a romantic one so I’m not sure whether I …
managing feelings of guilt as a “single secondary” Read More »
What if he loves her more? Then he fucking loves her more, and you either find that the love he has to offer you is enough, or it isn’t. If it is, you appreciate and reciprocate the shit out of that love, and you don’t compare how much love you’re getting. Its not halloween and the love isn’t you and your little brother’s candy haul. If it isn’t enough, you leave, and you don’t worry, because somebody out there is looking to share a giant pile of love with you.