Sometimes love is casual/less/etc. But it’s still love. It is always, always Love. Look, I’m not an idiot. I know that not every love will look like the love that sleeps next to me every night. If I have a love that is far from me, that I never/rarely see, that lives in another country. If…so many …
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I’ve heard that a million times. “You’re too nice!” Said to myself (in regards to what I do for others) and to others (in regards to what they do for me). I never know if it’s supposed to be a shocked utterance, an insult, or even a compliment of sorts? It often comes from a …
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There’s this scene from Bojack Horseman with Bojack gazing into Anna Spanakopita’s home. She’s there, making dinner, and he stays outside, from a distance, and thinks, It’s so sad that when you see someone as they really are, it ruins them. But he’s not saying it’s sad when you see someone reveal their true colors. …
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I love old movies. Raising Arizona is one of my favorite movies of all time. I apologize if I’m slightly spoiling this, but since it was released in 1987, well, I’ll put that on you :). There’s a scene in the movie where the main character tells Nathan Arizona that he and his wife are …
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She needs to be Beautiful, slender, child free but wanting to provide her domly dom with children (her body will, naturally, revert back to pre-child body), available to move near you, experienced in submission, willing to please, an excellent cook– and above all, SINGLE. He thinks because he is not seeking a bisexual woman, he …
Congratulations! Hey, it was tough, but you managed it. You found Him. The perfect dom and monogamous! I mean, how often do you stumble across that? But you caught this one! You found your perfect match. Your one true love (at least for now. S/he is the perfect, monogamous dom(me) who does it for desire– …
Abused people, abuse people. I’m sure you’ve heard that. Or seen it on a meme. I say it to myself as a reminder that it’s not personal when an abuse victim abuses me. It doesn’t excuse it, of course. But I can empathize. It’s easy to find yourself trapped in that mentality. As angry as …
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Some people need to learn to be a “me.” They’ve never been on their own. Don’t even know what it means to be themselves, apart from a Romantic Other. Suddenly find themselves cast on their own and…have no clue. Utterly adrift, no direction, no purpose. It’s scary. Others need to learn to be a “we.” …
I usually say that I won’t date anyone who is monogamous. But that’s not entirely true. I’ve allowed people to date me, exclusively, if they preferred that. Only with individuals capable of meeting their own needs and wants, of course. Still, it’s not my preference. I prefer to date people who want to dive fully …
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