rethinking common wisdom

View of the sea surf through a photographic lens lying on a sandy beach on a sunny day. By Alexey

seeing them for who they are shouldn’t ruin them

There’s this scene from Bojack Horseman with Bojack gazing into Anna Spanakopita’s home. She’s there, making dinner, and he stays outside, from a distance, and thinks, It’s so sad that when you see someone as they really are, it ruins them. But he’s not saying it’s sad when you see someone reveal their true colors. …

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Single white egg, with unicorn decoration; Creative minimal Easter background By hiddencatch

unicorns & unicorn hunters, the real story! (hint, it’s not a bi woman who dates couples!)

She needs to be Beautiful, slender, child free but wanting to provide her domly dom with children (her body will, naturally, revert back to pre-child body), available to move near you, experienced in submission, willing to please, an excellent cook– and above all, SINGLE. He thinks because he is not seeking a bisexual woman, he …

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plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 2: congratulations, you found your perfect monogamous dom!

Congratulations! Hey, it was tough, but you managed it. You found Him. The perfect dom and monogamous! I mean, how often do you stumble across that? But you caught this one! You found your perfect match. Your one true love (at least for now. S/he is the perfect, monogamous dom(me) who does it for desire– …

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some of us need to learn to be a “we,” some of us need to learn to be a “me,” and some of us…

Some people need to learn to be a “me.” They’ve never been on their own. Don’t even know what it means to be themselves, apart from a Romantic Other. Suddenly find themselves cast on their own and…have no clue. Utterly adrift, no direction, no purpose. It’s scary. Others need to learn to be a “we.” …

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Wine tasting from sample glasses on a summer day By Kristen

treating someone like an option that treats you like an option

I usually say that I won’t date anyone who is monogamous. But that’s not entirely true. I’ve allowed people to date me, exclusively, if they preferred that. Only with individuals capable of meeting their own needs and wants, of course. Still, it’s not my preference. I prefer to date people who want to dive fully …

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