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mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition

Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages:  What does love mean to you?  Look like?  How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …

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snowstorms, loneliness, beauty, joy, and scalding showers

Dancing in the shower to some corny 90s pop song, beautifully scalding water cascading down my shoulders, back, over my curves. I could lose myself in the joy of the moment, or I could pout that master is not joining me tomorrow night. stupid snowmaggaden mrr mrr meh I am a very happy little kitten. …

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when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”

I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …

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10(+) questions to help know if polyamorous relationships -could- be a compatible choice for you

Do you want to try a polyamorous relationship for the first time? Open up an existing relationship?  Date a partnered person? It’s bother harder, and easier, than you’ve likely been told.  Being polyamorous is really no different than any other life.  Especially if you have a few life skills already under your belt.  Which…it might …

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reevaluating, “abused people, abuse people”

Abused people, abuse people. I’ve heard that a lot. It’s easy to find yourself trapped in that mentality. As angry as I’ve gotten at my ex-metamour, I know that she’s mostly repeating what her own mother did to her. This is what she believes love looks like. It’s what she’s known. Abused people, abuse people. …

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what i learned as the invisible parent: a conversation with a fellow parent

“So how are things these days,” she says. And she is sincere in the question. So I talk to her. Some things are amazing, wonderful, even nearly unreal and euphoric. Sure, it’s a tough time for us all these days– but the truth is my life is better for the quarantine than it was even …

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