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sweet longings of a piesexual

Food. Sex. Sleep.

We all have our basic needs in our own Maslow’s pyramids. Mine happen to be food, sex, and sleep. In that order.

If you try to have intimate relations with me, without properly satisfying my first requirement, prepare for the kitty to meowl at you.

But I don’t know what to get you!, you cry in frustration. I’ve let you peruse my pantry and nothing seems to please you!

Pie. Cherry Pie. Chicken Pot Pie. Any Pie.

I love all the pies. Raspberry. Apple. Blueberry. Key Lime. Lemon Meringue. Cheesecake (which I consider more pie than cake.) Meat pies. Shepherd’s pies. I could live off nothing but pie!

You can always satisfy me with pie. So by all means, put pie into my mouth.

Thank you, please!

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echoism: the quiet sibling of narcissism

A brief definition of the word…

From @-PageTurner

Experiencing echoism in my own life…

I became intrigued at the idea, as I like learning about new ideas. This one struck me in particular– my munchkins being raised by a narcissist, I wanted as much knowledge as possible to help them in the future, should they need a listening ear or a guiding hand. At any rate, it couldn’t help to be more informed.

I didn’t notice echoism so much in the older two. But the youngest? A little. She constantly diminished herself as lesser than others saw her, rather than greater than how others saw her (echoism vs. narcissism). Especially when given direct praise, “You’re so good at X!” “No, I’m not.” Now, I wouldn’t say she praised others at the expense of herself. However, the definition, as expressed in the article, said that children of narcissistic parents are often not allowed to have needs of their own. Since I knew several children of narcissistic parents, I thought it worth pursuing understanding this concept in a more thorough manner.

Of course, the article also stated that psychologists believed it might be an inherited trait, rather than a learned condition. So, maybe this wasn’t the right track for me to go down at all. Still. Might as well dig a little deeper to find out what I really thought about it?

If you’d like to learn more…

I discovered two writings on the subject, a book called “Echoism: The silenced response to narcissism” and an essay entitled “Echoism. a New Diagnosis for Sufferers from Child Abuse.”

Hope you learned something, and thanks to @-PageTurner- for exposing me to a new word!

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what is floccinaucinihilipilification?

floccinaucinihilipilification

[ flok-suh-naw-suh-nahy-hil-uh-pil-uh-fi-key-shuh n ]SHOW IPA


noun

Rare. the estimation of something as valueless (encountered mainly as an example of one of the longest words in the English language).

Now there’s an insult I can use against the next guy who inboxes me something gross….

From Dictionary.com

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npc energy: i only talk to people when they talk to me first

I discovered this word from Urban Dictionary. My sources might be slightly dubious…

…but I still kinda think this term is amazing.

Cause I’m kinky AND geeky, which basically comprises 90% of kinksters in my very rough and unscientific study.   And, yes, I am often the social butterfly greeting the newbies at munches and parties. Still. Sometimes I’m feeling anti social, but still open to talking if the other party makes the first efforts.

“Okay, but what is an NPC?”

For those of you who have never heard of The Guild, never used a die with more than six sides or owned a single light saber like instrument, an NPC is a Non Player Character.  Often loosely based on or voiced by celebrities.  You venture around the game and, from time to time, you can choose (or sometimes you are required) to click on these characters that are just…there.  They have preprogrammed responses that activate some quest or progress the storyline.  Or they just say random nonsense that they will repeat as many times as you click on them (sometimes they have three or four statements on rotation).

The key piece I want to highlight is that they are unable to speak unless spoken to first. 

They will stand there all day, I suppose, until you click on them.  

So, NPC energy is when you’re the wallflower or the girl sitting in the booth sipping her cocktail or the guy standing in the corner— and you just wait there for someone to talk to you, if they care enough.  Because you have the kind of energy that is just enough to talk to them, but not enough to approach them first.

I feel like it explains a lot about those people that do respond to me, yet never seem to reach out themselves.  Do they not like me?  Do they only put up with me because they don’t know how to turn me away?  Or are they just in that NPC energy?

Heck, sometimes I’m in that NPC mode myself.  Now I have a way to describe myself on those days.  

Anyway, still don’t go on Urban Dictionary unless you want to be disturbed.