Look, not every decision in life must be embraced as if it were our heart’s greatest desire. Consent is a part of our daily lives; we’d be exhausted if we threw ourselves into every single, microscopic decision…
Fake Benefits of Non-Monogamy: 1) You will never be alone. 2) You will have constant, amazing threesomes. 3) Dating will be easier.
Perhaps you met young. Childhood sweethearts. High school romance stayed sweet. Your relationship spans, well, practically an eternity when you compare it to your friends’ romances. You don’t remember what life was like before she came along. Which is all well and good. At some point, you felt pretty good about what you’ve got. You …
relationships are a marble statue, not an oak tree Read More »
“Because if i don’t [write my book] then that means all the damage I got wasn’t good damage it’s just damage. I have gotten nothing out of it, and all those years, I was miserable for nothing. I could have been happy this whole time…what was it all for?” Bojack Horseman, S6E10, Diane Sometimes we …
My friend shared a story. She’s an emotional person, empathetic, thinks with her heart. Also happens to be a hard skills, no nonsense, get the job done career woman. But– she has a soft spot within a relatively hard exterior, I think. Like a caramel M&M. She just pulled over, in her car, today. And …
Yes, the big stuff is important. Yes, it matters. The truth is that relationships are hard and It. All. Matters. If you don’t sweat the small stuff, none of it will matter. It’s the small stuff they’ll remember. One time, my partner and I picked little one up from a two week vacation. Since we …
when it comes to relationships, (sometimes) sweat the small stuff Read More »
We have this funny human need to define all the “types” of love. As if love fell neatly into comfortable, clear cut categories. Like, red, blue, orange, and violet. What would you say if I asked you, “What is the opposite of blue?” Red? Yellow-orange? Or would you clarify to me, “Which shade of blue?” …
Some women swoon over a man who says he will give her “everything.” I swoon over the man who says he will give me “almost everything.” I’m more likely to mock you than kiss you for saying, “You are my goddess for all eternity, your breasts are divine and your legs are the most perfect …
I adore WALL-E. It came out ten years ago, a couple of years before I settled into practicing my form of polyamory. Before I knew the word existed. I moved to Korea shortly after the movie was released, and I showed it to my Korean students. Their mastery of English varied quite a bit (though …
when two robots fall in love: a story about compersion Read More »
ask your partner what they would do if you fell in love with someone else on that first date, lying on the grass in the park