God, I love “love bombing” Not always. But sometimes. Other times it pisses me off. But sometimes, like a guilty pleasure TV show, I cannot get enough of it! I read an article today that “love bombing” is a sign of a narcissist. If I wanted to avoid a narcissist, I should avoid those who […]
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Some might say I wasted that decade. Threw my twenties away. They might be right– — but they might be wrong. If I could pass on a single life lesson to anyone, it would be this: Whoever you are, wherever you are, please put aside that time to find yourself. Because happiness is tricky. Everyone’s
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I tried to input my code. Thought I’d mistyped it. But, no, it just wouldn’t work. Finally, I checked my phone, and, sure enough, I’d gotten an email asking me if the purchase had been me or fraud.
Look, not every decision in life must be embraced as if it were our heart’s greatest desire. Consent is a part of our daily lives; we’d be exhausted if we threw ourselves into every single, microscopic decision…
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Fake Benefits of Non-Monogamy: 1) You will never be alone. 2) You will have constant, amazing threesomes. 3) Dating will be easier.
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Perhaps you met young. Childhood sweethearts. High school romance stayed sweet. Your relationship spans, well, practically an eternity when you compare it to your friends’ romances. You don’t remember what life was like before she came along. Which is all well and good. At some point, you felt pretty good about what you’ve got. You
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“Because if i don’t [write my book] then that means all the damage I got wasn’t good damage it’s just damage. I have gotten nothing out of it, and all those years, I was miserable for nothing. I could have been happy this whole time…what was it all for?” Bojack Horseman, S6E10, Diane Sometimes we
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My friend shared a story. She’s an emotional person, empathetic, thinks with her heart. Also happens to be a hard skills, no nonsense, get the job done career woman. But– she has a soft spot within a relatively hard exterior, I think. Like a caramel M&M. She just pulled over, in her car, today. And
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Yes, the big stuff is important. Yes, it matters. The truth is that relationships are hard and It. All. Matters. If you don’t sweat the small stuff, none of it will matter. It’s the small stuff they’ll remember. One time, my partner and I picked little one up from a two week vacation. Since we
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We have this funny human need to define all the “types” of love. As if love fell neatly into comfortable, clear cut categories. Like, red, blue, orange, and violet. What would you say if I asked you, “What is the opposite of blue?” Red? Yellow-orange? Or would you clarify to me, “Which shade of blue?”
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