On the Many Forms of ‘Ships

Polyamorous, monogamous, platonic, romantic…what makes a relationship “tick”?  Relationshipping at it’s best (or at least my best, take it for what you will!)

some of us need to learn to be a “we,” some of us need to learn to be a “me,” and some of us…

Some people need to learn to be a “me.” They’ve never been on their own. Don’t even know what it means to be themselves, apart from a Romantic Other. Suddenly find themselves cast on their own and…have no clue. Utterly adrift, no direction, no purpose. It’s scary. Others need to learn to be a “we.” …

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Heads united by heart By inimalGraphic

relationships that are wants, and the relationships that are needs, the

Tonight, I made dinner for my partner and my oldest munchkin. It’s not much, but it’s tasty and everyone likes it. But it’s not the food that matters. The oldest can find food for herself (though admittedly she’s not very good at it). So can my master. They are not helpless. But, as I said, …

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Wine tasting from sample glasses on a summer day By Kristen

treating someone like an option that treats you like an option

I usually say that I won’t date anyone who is monogamous. But that’s not entirely true. I’ve allowed people to date me, exclusively, if they preferred that. Only with individuals capable of meeting their own needs and wants, of course. Still, it’s not my preference. I prefer to date people who want to dive fully …

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Beautiful young girl paying by credit card for shopping By master1305

do you want to be my first thought? then let’s be willing to be each other’s afterthoughts.

My master wasn’t very much in my life at first, nor did I think he’d ever be. When I first met my master, he was with someone else. I had to accept being less than number one for him, or accept someone else. I chose him. But it meant a number of compromises. He was …

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open letter to the married man i haven’t yet rejected, an

To the married man to whom I will one day say “no,” Thinking on the wonderful love between the Professor, Wonder Woman, and the Wife, I thought about how troublesome it can be for couples to find their magical unicorn. Alas, dear married man, that I am about to reject, it isn’t so easy for …

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