On the Many Forms of ‘Ships

Polyamorous, monogamous, platonic, romantic…what makes a relationship “tick”?  Relationshipping at it’s best (or at least my best, take it for what you will!)

understanding the existence of multiple, simultaneous relationships, OR when one ignores the 1+1=X rule

I am not a mathematical person. I cannot tell you if 1+1=2, mathematically speaking. I know there are arguments, apparently both ways, where some say one plus one equals two– and some say it does not. Don’t ask me for the mathematical proof, please. I am, however, a relationship person. In relationships, 1+1=X.  I would …

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oh, I keep falling in and out of love with you…and you…and you…

I am in love with Love. When you’re someone who adores, breathes Love. When love is more precious than any diamond. When all you want is to feel safe, warm, and full of light. It is a painful world we live in that has trouble wrapping their mind around this. I’ve heard (true quote), “I …

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is it lazy to not have a primary partner?

I’ve seen this come up time and time again. Especially related to how soooo many folks in polyamorous relationships don’t want to commit, are just looking to have fun, don’t want a “serious” relationship..and I keep hearing this word… Lazy. I thought I’d drop it here, for posterity’s sake. And to engage a bit of …

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Star magic unicorn logo. By s_lena

translating your unicorn into a “shooting star”

I lie on the ground, staring at the open sky. Until I see a sharp light flash across the darkness. A shooting star. How often have I heard someone talking about a hoped for unicorn?  More than I can speak on. It’s usually not a bisexual woman into couples, however, but something far rarer.  If …

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Valentines Day Background Two Red Hearts On Vintage Wooden Table By Romolo Tavani

privilege of being His second love, the

In the movies, the “best” loves aren’t the first ones.  Funny, isn’t it?  In the movies, the main character often goes through several false attempt loves before they find their lasting connection. Sometimes they even need to experience those initial loves to appreciate their “last” love (at least so far as the movie goes.) This …

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God, your relationships are so LAZY!

I’m lazy about relationships some days.  So are my friends.  Random internet strangers. …and who the fuck cares? My cousin is a typical traditionalist who chose the path of least resistance when it came to her romantic life. Something easily understood by her mainly Christian conservative friends and family. She dated the opposite sex. She …

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Single white egg, with unicorn decoration; Creative minimal Easter background By hiddencatch

unicorns & unicorn hunters, the real story! (hint, it’s not a bi woman who dates couples!)

She needs to be Beautiful, slender, child free but wanting to provide her domly dom with children (her body will, naturally, revert back to pre-child body), available to move near you, experienced in submission, willing to please, an excellent cook– and above all, SINGLE. He thinks because he is not seeking a bisexual woman, he …

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some of us need to learn to be a “we,” some of us need to learn to be a “me,” and some of us…

Some people need to learn to be a “me.” They’ve never been on their own. Don’t even know what it means to be themselves, apart from a Romantic Other. Suddenly find themselves cast on their own and…have no clue. Utterly adrift, no direction, no purpose. It’s scary. Others need to learn to be a “we.” …

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Heads united by heart By inimalGraphic

relationships that are wants, and the relationships that are needs, the

Tonight, I made dinner for my partner and my oldest munchkin. It’s not much, but it’s tasty and everyone likes it. But it’s not the food that matters. The oldest can find food for herself (though admittedly she’s not very good at it). So can my master. They are not helpless. But, as I said, …

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