I shall, for purposes of this argument, say there is something that is an instinctual thing that happens when another thing happens (“reaction”) and something that is a measured and calculated thing to that thing that happened (“response”). (In fairness, I feel I heard this somewhere, but I cannot remember exactly where. It isn’t something …
I’ve been watching “The Good Place.” Again. And again. And again. I can’t stop watching. Until a certain, let’s say, infallible truth emerged. Namely, You don’t actually need a “bad place,” in order to have a “good place.” I support most of the show (minus the inevitable toxic relationship stuff that is in everything). Only …
What does it mean to be an alpha submissive? Does the role even exist? Or is it just a way for a confused Switch to self describe? Being an alpha submissive, for me, isn’t about being a role model. I’m hardly simply because you are a role model. And you will be if you are someone’s submissive …
Munchkin: Do you roleplay outside of our games? (bear in mind, this was a very vanilla kid friendly online game where you apparently roleplay as different careers, i.e. police officer. Or, bandit.) Me: …. Not really. Her: Okay, we’re doing a romantic roleplay– Me: Internally raises eyebrow Her: –and you can look for a boyfriend …
If you cannot accept your child for who they are, that is your issue. Not some scapegoat of your choosing. Not your child’s. If you cannot accept them, they will find someone who will. If you make it clear you do not approve of their wants, their desires, their choices? Well, if it’s something small …
I’m an all in kind of woman (if I am a woman, which I’m currently debating). That’s what I like. That’s what’s worth it for me. …but it’s not the only thing worth it. Connections matter more to me than anything else. It’s what I’ve got. I’m not the smartest, wealthiest, most accomplished. I don’t …
Ugly people don’t think they are ugly. Uneducated people do not believe they are. Cruel people don’t see themselves as cruel. Narcissists don’t question if they’re narcissists. Awful mothers do not think they are awful. They don’t wonder about things. If you wonder, “Am I [something I don’t want to be]”? …you’re probably not.
Ten years ago, my partner made me a promise. I am ever so close to collecting on that promise. Fortunately, I wasn’t ready before. No wasted time. I am now, and my life is coming together just in time. Almost like my kinky guardian angel is looking out for me (of course she is, she …
“What are you into?” Some folk get mad at the question. They say the question is trite, boring. ‘What was the best part about your day?,” your mother would ask you at dinner, after you got home from school. And secretly, you hated that question. “What are you into?” starts to feel like the grown …
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I choose kindness, compassion, and warmth. Being the one to bring a smile to your lips- rather than tears to your eyes- makes me feel…full. Gentle. Soft. Welcoming. The one that attracts the pups and kittens and littles, who perhaps sense that I won’t hurt them. The one that you know will hold you, sharing …