On the meaning of Life & Love, or “Why is Romance the Only Thing That Matters When We’re So Bad At It?” and “Maybe We Should Try To Be Less Bad At It?”
“God knows if I wanted, I could go out and do whatever. You think I haven’t made sacrificed, I haven’t denied things for myself? A guy at the bar was hitting on me earlier, and half of me wanted him to, just for some excitement, some fucking passion. But that is what you do. That …
what does she want, you ask? She wants to be SEEN, and she wants to be LOVED for everything inside of her. She wants to be SAFE. She wants to feel DESIRED. ….it is what we all want. The essentials. Regardless of sex, gender, identity. Give that to a person, and they will be yours …
In the aftermath of Game 3 of the Stanley Cup Finals, A Panthers player held a Golden Knights player back while Matthew Tkachuk punched him in the face. Skirmishes aside, it was a shitty thing to do. In any other circumstances, that’s assault. It wasn’t hitting or knocking into someone during play. The game was …
petty assault and the reality of “no consequences” Read More »
Greed is normal, jealousy is normal. But what does “normal” even mean? Is it what is common? What is natural? What is right? I go to a doctor, I say I’m feeling “normal” today. My chronic pain is “normal.” That, of course, differs from those with lesser or greater chronic pain. It is, however, normal …
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I had a friend come out recently, everywhere. I’m proud of her, but above all, I am grateful. You see, while my inner family, my chosen family knows? I am still not in a position to be freely open with who I am, especially regarding being polyamorous and owned. I wish I were- but I cannot risk …
honesty is a privilege we should all exercise when we have the ability Read More »
God, the determination of those who possess that misguided strength! Misguided in the sense that it, for all the world can see, takes them not only down an undesired path but one that is completely at odds with what they claim to be after. And keep going down it at the same rate as before, …
some days i pray for the awesome power of misguided strength Read More »
(Reposted from an earlier writing I abandoned for a bit. Inspired to share again by a fellow kinkster, @LovelyLolaTX) “If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” “If you don’t love you, why would anyone else?” “Learn to love yourself if you want someone to love you.” I don’t buy it. Not because …
don’t love yourself? try loving someone else Read More »
Look, I know what you want to say. “But women do the same thing! Women love showing off their bodies!” You aren’t wrong, entirely. You aren’t entirely right, either. I’m sorry for the shorthand terminology associated with unwanted dick pictures. It really isn’t about the “unsolicited.” At least not primarily. I get “unsolicited pussy pics” …
TINY problem with unsolicited dick pics, the Read More »
Two things. Just. Two. Good. Things. Sometimes life is rough. Can you find two good things in your life? Some people don’t have that. It’s a gift to have two wonderful, amazing, unbelievable things in one’s life. Two things you can rely on. That give you undeniable, unimaginable pleasure. Just think of two good, I …
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Jealousy is an odd creature. Somewhat elusive, but incredibly pervasive. Oftentimes ill defined and poorly examined. Perhaps it’s my current Nyquil-addled brain, but I’ve been thinking about this emotion. I think it’s a fair assumption to say we generally think of jealousy as defensive love in vanilla culture. “You are mine, your love and affection …
musings on jealousy Read More »