On the meaning of Life & Love, or “Why is Romance the Only Thing That Matters When We’re So Bad At It?” and “Maybe We Should Try To Be Less Bad At It?”
…but today I am. Only I wish you wouldn’t say I’m pretty when I’m tired, worn out, sweaty, gross. Master knows I am beautiful, regardless of my appearance, he’s allowed. You, stranger, are going off what you see- and I’m not stupid. When you lie to me, because you think it’ll increase your chances of …
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Look, I know what you want to say. “But women do the same thing! Women love showing off their bodies!” You aren’t wrong, entirely. You aren’t entirely right, either. I’m sorry for the shorthand terminology associated with unwanted dick pictures. It really isn’t about the “unsolicited.” At least not primarily. I get “unsolicited pussy pics” …
TINY problem with unsolicited dick pics, the Read More »
Two things. Just two good things. Can you find two good things in your life? Some people don’t have that. It’s a gift to have two wonderful, amazing, unbelievable things in one’s life. Just think of two good, I mean, really good things. I have my master, and I have my family. But sometimes it’s nice to …
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Jealousy is an odd creature. Somewhat elusive, but incredibly pervasive. Oftentimes ill defined and poorly examined. Perhaps it’s my current Nyquil-addled brain, but I’ve been thinking about this emotion. I think it’s a fair assumption to say we generally think of jealousy as defensive love in vanilla culture. “You are mine, your love and affection …
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peace in stillness, it is not lonely to be alone when one is at peace with oneself i am more isolated surrounded by a sea of unfamiliar minds than with my own mind and body i cherish being alone is not something i desire much of but i can appreciate the profundity of quiet swirling …
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beauty, wonder why is it so few of us have felt anything? i never touch a soul, but i enter it if i have any interest in a person, i want them to know, feel, see me casual is fine, but i am very bad at it even if it’s only for an hour, two, …
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I adore fairytale adaptations. Consistently, through the years, my favorite has remained the same: Ever After. I love that it’s the first Cinderella story where, when the prince (would) sing, Do I want you because you’re wonderful, Or are you wonderful Because I want you? I don’t answer, “I have no idea. As far as …
25th anniversary: the best Cinderella story, “Ever After” Read More »
I understand hesitancy in romance. Okay, I might jump into bed with near strangers- but I am slower to connect emotionally. I instinctively freeze whenever I meet someone new. Even when I first met my master. He wasn’t right for me; I had strong feelings about his partner choices; I was a total mess and …
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Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages: What does love mean to you? Look like? How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …
mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition Read More »
There’s a lot of noise and confusion as you come into your own, as a queer person. For context, I have at least one child who is going through an active period of questioning and evolving her sexuality. At twelve, she’s already dealing with her own “noise.” Is she confused? Not really. Not anymore than …