On Life & Love

On the meaning of Life & Love, or “Why is Romance the Only Thing That Matters When We’re So Bad At It?” and “Maybe We Should Try To Be Less Bad At It?”

what Commitment means, or what it has the potential to mean (*Black Mirror, Striking Vipers spoilers*)

“God knows if I wanted, I could go out and do whatever. You think I haven’t made sacrificed, I haven’t denied things for myself? A guy at the bar was hitting on me earlier, and half of me wanted him to, just for some excitement, some fucking passion. But that is what you do. That …

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petty assault and the reality of “no consequences”

In the aftermath of Game 3 of the Stanley Cup Finals, A Panthers player held a Golden Knights player back while Matthew Tkachuk punched him in the face. Skirmishes aside, it was a shitty thing to do. In any other circumstances, that’s assault. It wasn’t hitting or knocking into someone during play. The game was …

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honesty is a privilege we should all exercise when we have the ability

I had a friend come out recently, everywhere. I’m proud of her, but above all, I am grateful. You see, while my inner family, my chosen family knows?  I am still not in a position to be freely open with who I am, especially regarding being polyamorous and owned.  I wish I were- but I cannot risk …

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don’t love yourself? try loving someone else

(Reposted from an earlier writing I abandoned for a bit. Inspired to share again by a fellow kinkster, @LovelyLolaTX) “If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” “If you don’t love you, why would anyone else?” “Learn to love yourself if you want someone to love you.” I don’t buy it. Not because …

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TINY problem with unsolicited dick pics, the

Look, I know what you want to say. “But women do the same thing! Women love showing off their bodies!” You aren’t wrong, entirely. You aren’t entirely right, either. I’m sorry for the shorthand terminology associated with unwanted dick pictures. It really isn’t about the “unsolicited.” At least not primarily. I get “unsolicited pussy pics” …

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can you find two good things in your life?

Two things. Just.  Two.  Good.  Things. Sometimes life is rough.  Can you find two good things in your life?  Some people don’t have that.  It’s a gift to have two wonderful, amazing, unbelievable things in one’s life.  Two things you can rely on.  That give you undeniable, unimaginable pleasure. Just think of two good, I …

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