On Life & Love

On the meaning of Life & Love, or “Why is Romance the Only Thing That Matters When We’re So Bad At It?” and “Maybe We Should Try To Be Less Bad At It?”

TINY problem with unsolicited dick pics, the

Look, I know what you want to say. “But women do the same thing! Women love showing off their bodies!” You aren’t wrong, entirely. You aren’t entirely right, either. I’m sorry for the shorthand terminology associated with unwanted dick pictures. It really isn’t about the “unsolicited.” At least not primarily. I get “unsolicited pussy pics” …

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25th anniversary: the best Cinderella story, “Ever After”

I adore fairytale adaptations. Consistently, through the years, my favorite has remained the same: Ever After. I love that it’s the first Cinderella story where, when the prince (would) sing, Do I want you because you’re wonderful, Or are you wonderful Because I want you? I don’t answer, “I have no idea. As far as …

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mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition

Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages:  What does love mean to you?  Look like?  How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …

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living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part two: the murmur of “noise”

There’s a lot of noise and confusion as you come into your own, as a queer person. For context, I have at least one child who is going through an active period of questioning and evolving her sexuality. At twelve, she’s already dealing with her own “noise.”  Is she confused?  Not really.  Not anymore than …

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