There’s a story about the North Wind, the Sun, and a Man in a Coat.
The man is the object which the Cloud and Sun are attempting to manipulate the Man to remove his Coat. The North Wind blows and blows but the Man only pulls his Coat closer round himself. The Sun gently smiles upon the Man, smiles upon smiles. After some time, the Man gives in and takes off the Coat.
You can be the Coat, letting whatever happens happen.
You can be the Wind, fighting to impose your will and make things happen or not.
Or you can be the Sun and gently guide towards the outcome you desire.
…which will it be?