Dear Kitty, I’m in a relationship with a poly partner. I’m not sure he would agree as he cites how significant I am to him, but I’d class his wife as his primary and myself as a secondary, however his relationship with his wife is not a romantic one so I’m not sure whether I …
managing feelings of guilt as a “single secondary” Read More »
I have absolutely no desire to micromanage anyone. The pet has been on this earth 21 more years than I have. In that time he’s perfected the art of managing himself. He’s done pretty well before I came along and if a rogue city bus were to flatten me tomorrow, he’d be sad but he’d manage. I have no time to tell him what to eat and when to eat it. I have to make sure my youngest doesn’t eat peanut butter and nutella every single meal. That’s enough dietary monitoring for me.
Yes, the big stuff is important. Yes, it matters. The truth is that relationships are hard and It. All. Matters. If you don’t sweat the small stuff, none of it will matter. It’s the small stuff they’ll remember. One time, my partner and I picked little one up from a two week vacation. Since we …
when it comes to relationships, (sometimes) sweat the small stuff Read More »
As a self identified kitten and submissive who does have an anxious avoidance attachment style, I found this quite educational. As with any research, please take this with a grain of salt and apply it to yourself as is relevant, but still, I wanted to share this with you! Yours truly, Kitten ____________________________________________ Reposted with …
“Do you suspend dynamics when you’re sick?” I’ve most often seen this question posed towards s-types. Does your master suspend dynamics when you are unwell? And a part of me recognizes that many people do not know how dynamics work. They are curious what happens when the sub cannot “serve” her dominant. I respect this. …
what D/s looks like “in sickness” as well as “in health” Read More »
The atmosphere is perfect, if perfect exists. I’m sitting in my favorite restaurant in the world with -one- of my favorite persons in the world. Placing alternating morsels of exquisite sweet and savory foodstuffs (this date concoction is incredible!) into my mouth. Luxuriating in the gentle breeze of a fan. Behind me, plays one of …
polyamory in casablanca (**yes, some spoilers**) Read More »
The Princess She stamps her foot. “I am here, you will listen.” She wishes her domain run with a certain discipline. A certain grace breezing across her lands (or at least her side of the bed.) She does not care for chores, especially doing dishes, and she doesn’t like to wake up early. But, of …
We have this funny human need to define all the “types” of love. As if love fell neatly into comfortable, clear cut categories. Like, red, blue, orange, and violet. What would you say if I asked you, “What is the opposite of blue?” Red? Yellow-orange? Or would you clarify to me, “Which shade of blue?” …
Ah, NRE. That glowing period in a new relationship that can last anywhere from a day to six months (or even longer!). Say, six to nine months. About how long it takes to make a baby. The honeymoon of the relationship. Everything is shiny and wonderful. Except I have to admit I’m not sure I …
I want to preface this by saying that I enjoy NRE. It’s new and exciting and fun. But I feel like I don’t see many writings on Old Relationship Energy. Which I, am really enjoying. So here’s to older relationship energy.