Red flags are fairly straight forward. Things you don’t want. Things to avoid. But sometimes we see a behavior and we are sure it means something terrible- but it turns out it was only a big, old, red flag. This person wasn’t trying to isolate you (red flag of an abuser and predator); they just […]
lessons on “green flags”: pt 1: when someone isn’t who you think they are Read More »
This message is specifically directed to any couple thinking about opening up, but really it’s for anyone. I am skeptical of most “unconditional love.” I don’t want to argue here whether unconditional love exists. Perhaps it does. Perhaps it doesn’t. But love is more than a feeling. It is manifested in our actions. And that
the harsh realities of sunk costs vs staying with the “one whose been there for you” Read More »
Mutually assured destruction (MAD) is a doctrine of military strategy and national security policy in which a full-scale use of nuclear weapons by two or more opposing sides would cause the complete annihilation of both the attacker and the defender (see pre-emptive nuclear strike and second strike).[1] It is based on the theory of deterrence, which holds that the threat of using strong weapons against the enemy prevents the enemy’s use
mutually assured destruction based relationships are my #1 hard limit Read More »
for better or worse, I’ve settled on what I want in life
For now. For the foreseeable future. If I live a thousand years, I might redefine it,
kitty’s journey: part three Read More »
“How far will you go?” Twenty years ago, I’m quite sure I’d never date someone with kids. Except at twenty-three, my date shows up with two cheery-eyed daughters in tow (yes, I knew he had kids, no, I didn’t know I was going to meet them.) I gingerly hold one little girl’s hand and introduce
kitty’s journey: part two Read More »
I stumbled into my romantic journey when I entered college. I had sorta managed some semblance of dating prior to that, but nothing worth mentioning. Oh, I did once find out this guy I kissed had a fiancee back home
kitty’s journey: part one Read More »