Been moving and traveling a long time. Never overly worried about what I left behind, always trusted I would find something wherever I ended up. I somehow internalized a confidence in this, when I had little confidence in any other ability. That particular self-assurance paid off. I did find my tribe when I resettled, however […]
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I desperately want to call Her crazy. I don’t, because I know she says it about me. A sign of a narcissist is that they call their exes “crazy.” I’d rather let her be the narcissist. The truth is, I don’t even believe she’s crazy. What she did made perfect logical sense from her perspective, and, frankly,
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“Social media isn’t real, anyway,” my friend shrugs. It’s true. It rarely speaks to our realities. Nobody wants to hear that kind of thing, at least not in that context. Time and place, as with everything. I do not spill it all on social media. These people are not my therapist. It’s unfair of me
I love old movies. Raising Arizona is one of my favorite movies of all time. I apologize if I’m slightly spoiling this, but since it was released in 1987, well, I’ll put that on you :). There’s a scene in the movie where the main character tells Nathan Arizona that he and his wife are
I may be “damaged,” but I don’t need to be alone Read More »
I’m walking around, and I overhear the words floating in a conversation, “They’re confused.” In my head, I know I’m supposed to vehemently deny such ignorance. “No, they’re not! You’re confused!” Except they rarely are, if I am quite honest. Misogynists, racists, idiots. Somehow, they’re never confused. No matter how long, rambling, and nonsensical their
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I’ve never had that overwhelming life defining moment. Things just kept happening. That was all. I’ve never had the wedding day, nerve wracking graduation (yes, I graduated, but just bachelor’s, nothing special), or the birth of my child. I’ve had very good days and very bad days. Or I’ve had days I floated on my
do i want the happily ever after? Read More »
I had a perfect week. I can’t imagine a more perfect week, perhaps an entirely different sort of perfect but not “more” perfect. It’s difficult, with all the pain surrounding us, but I don’t want to feel guilty for feeling, well, good. Happy. Floating in the clouds. Surrounded by love, support, everything anyone could claim
why not allow a little more beauty into this world? Read More »
It’s late Sunday evening, around 9pm. I notice my oldest munchkin at her usual ritual. She’s sitting at the dinner table, absorbed in her snacks and her Facebook scrolling. It’s one of the few times she emerges from her den. I’m annoyed at her for bolting away from dinner earlier and avoiding chores. She’s barely
practicing kindness in little ways: a gentle approach to daily life Read More »
As the old year winds down and the new year approaches, this is one of my commitments to myself. I feel this is quite a lot, considering I don’t generally like rules. I am breaking my own standard to create a new rule, at least for myself. The Golden Rule: Treat others how YOU want
ruby rule: when you treat people better than you want to be treated, the Read More »
Feelings are a funny thing. I understand this is becoming more and more common wisdom. I’m grateful for this. Feelings shouldn’t be confused for fact. Still, I don’t believe we can talk about this too much. Because how you feel is real. How she feels is real. How he feels is real. Those feelings could
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