My friend shared a story. She’s an emotional person, empathetic, thinks with her heart. Also happens to be a hard skills, no nonsense, get the job done career woman. But– she has a soft spot within a relatively hard exterior, I think. Like a caramel M&M. She just pulled over, in her car, today. And …
[Polyamory] forces us to contend with the hubris of monogamy, [a] false arrogance about who we are in a relationship that never has to be tested or contended with at all [in our] monogamous relationship. I cannot remember when or where I had this conversation with a friend of mine. Discussing, among other topics of …
If you give a little a stuffy, she’s going to ask for a big, soft blanket. If you give her a big, soft blanket, she’s probably going to want to take a nice nap. If you let her take a nice nap, she’s going to want you to tuck her in. If you go to …
Yes, the big stuff is important. Yes, it matters. The truth is that relationships are hard and It. All. Matters. If you don’t sweat the small stuff, none of it will matter. It’s the small stuff they’ll remember. One time, my partner and I picked little one up from a two week vacation. Since we …
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“Do you suspend dynamics when you’re sick?” I’ve most often seen this question posed towards s-types. Does your master suspend dynamics when you are unwell? And a part of me recognizes that many people do not know how dynamics work. They are curious what happens when the sub cannot “serve” her dominant. I respect this. …
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The atmosphere is perfect, if perfect exists. I’m sitting in my favorite restaurant in the world with -one- of my favorite persons in the world. Placing alternating morsels of exquisite sweet and savory foodstuffs (this date concoction is incredible!) into my mouth. Luxuriating in the gentle breeze of a fan. Behind me, plays one of …
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The Princess She stamps her foot. “I am here, you will listen.” She wishes her domain run with a certain discipline. A certain grace breezing across her lands (or at least her side of the bed.) She does not care for chores, especially doing dishes, and she doesn’t like to wake up early. But, of …
We have this funny human need to define all the “types” of love. As if love fell neatly into comfortable, clear cut categories. Like, red, blue, orange, and violet. What would you say if I asked you, “What is the opposite of blue?” Red? Yellow-orange? Or would you clarify to me, “Which shade of blue?” …
Ah, NRE. That glowing period in a new relationship that can last anywhere from a day to six months (or even longer!). Say, six to nine months. About how long it takes to make a baby. The honeymoon of the relationship. Everything is shiny and wonderful. Except I have to admit I’m not sure I …
Some women swoon over a man who says he will give her “everything.” I swoon over the man who says he will give me “almost everything.” I’m more likely to mock you than kiss you for saying, “You are my goddess for all eternity, your breasts are divine and your legs are the most perfect …