None of us are perfect. It’s really hard to be a dominant.  Don’t judge them, you don’t even know what it’s like to do what they do.  We shouldn’t blame a submissive’s bad experience on the dom(me). Submissives need to seek whatever help they need in getting past blaming their dominant.

I’m not excusing the bad dominants, but this is really the best way for submissives to regain control over their own lives.

I mean, like I said, nobody is perfect. But we’ve all got to move past our own issues. The more we all heal from bad experiences, the less those experiences impacted our lives.

Stop criticizing bad dominants and realize that we’re all just doing the best we can. Remember that even dominants who nurture healthy, wonderful submissive partners- the ones who are the most caring, loving, and supportive- make mistakes. Even the best dominants can be judged.

It’s really pretty unfair to put your standards on another person. You have no idea what they’re going through. Live and let live, I say.

…in fact, I’m a little offended you would even think of examining how dominants behave in the first place.