Surely this isn’t an unfamiliar sight. A dominant stands proudly, thrilled by his submissive’s accomplishments and demeanor. S/he freely displays them for the public, basking in the glow of the accolades, “What a beautiful relationship you two have!” The masses are slutty with their praises. But somewhere in the background is a frustrated dominant (or …
Every day I see requests put forth by women and hetero couples. Requests that, if put forth by men, would be met with statements of “You should just pay a sex worker if you want that.“. Fair, but we need this for women and MF or FF couples, too! Someone willing to provide sexual services …
I like kisses. I’m a bit funny about it, but I like them. Just not usually on the lips. No, not those lips, either! I’m just not big into kissing, except with a chosen few. I do not wish to kiss merely for the sake of kissing. When I do, though… Neck, curves down my …
Not everyone needs a dungeon. But not everyone will need a heart surgeon, either. That doesn’t negate the need to keep one around. I love house parties, too. But it’s a whole different atmosphere. They don’t replace dungeons. Perhaps part of the problem is that we don’t understand the value. A few recent events have …
Sometimes sitting, wishing, and waiting isn’t enough. Wishing for a perfect submissive or dominant isn’t enough. Simply living your best life isn’t always enough. There’s never an “enough” to guarantee finding Love, let alone Submission and someone worthy of that Submission. Or someone worthy of Ownership. …but sometimes we can help ourselves out a bit. …
Kink, I think, is play. What else defines it apart from “vanilla”? After all, kink may not necessarily involve whips, chains, stilettos, or anything the 50 Shades culture associates with kink. Kink, I hope!, is not a means of feeling superior or enlightened. Nor using code words to make others feel disconnected from the conversation. …
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What if playing with rubber duckies ISN’T just for littles?
Note: It’s possible that doms can experience a form of drop, but this is really about sub drop. I’ve read, time and time again, about sub drop. Which is great that we talk about it. But also— we kinda talk about it like it’s something we indulge in simply because we feel like it. “I …