S/he belongs to you for a reason. If you wish to own a submissive, it must be more than words. More than empty gestures. I will defer, for a moment, to one of my favorite stories on explaining How Adults Work, The Little Prince. The part where the Prince lands on a tiny planet where …
If you give a little a stuffy, she’s going to ask for a big, soft blanket. If you give her a big, soft blanket, she’s probably going to want to take a nice nap. If you let her take a nice nap, she’s going to want you to tuck her in. If you go to …
“Do you suspend dynamics when you’re sick?” I’ve most often seen this question posed towards s-types. Does your master suspend dynamics when you are unwell? And a part of me recognizes that many people do not know how dynamics work. They are curious what happens when the sub cannot “serve” her dominant. I respect this. …
what D/s looks like “in sickness” as well as “in health” Read More »
The Princess She stamps her foot. “I am here, you will listen.” She wishes her domain run with a certain discipline. A certain grace breezing across her lands (or at least her side of the bed.) She does not care for chores, especially doing dishes, and she doesn’t like to wake up early. But, of …
Chocolate is a flavor. Kink is a flavor.
Ice cream is a thing. Sex is also a thing.
I found a pretty solid “how to do vanilla romance.” I modified it every so slightly– and it worked for polyamorous relationships, too! So this is also my Polyamorous Manifesto. This guideline includes no reference to anything kinky; no swinging, spanking, anal sex– “But none of that is kinky!” you interrupt. To which I politely …
poly? kinky? relationships are just relationships: my vanilla manifesto Read More »
Note: It’s possible that doms can experience a form of drop, but this is really about sub drop. I’ve read, time and time again, about sub drop. Which is great that we talk about it. But also— we kinda talk about it like it’s something we indulge in simply because we feel like it. “I …
Well, after all, most dom(mes) are like that, right? None of us are perfect. It’s really hard to be a dominant. Don’t judge them, you don’t even know what it’s like to do what they do. We shouldn’t blame a submissive’s bad experience on the dom(me). Submissives need to seek whatever help they need in …
Someone shared their love of impact the other day. It’s difficult to explain to the outside, vanilla world that pain and suffering are chosen freely here. It was nice to have the words put simply and clearly. This– is why I love it. This– is why I chose it. Only, for myself, I don’t need …
i crave being owned, as she craves a white wedding gown or bruises Read More »