Six Reasons Why a Person Can be Monogamous From Insecurity to Boredom The idea that it’s impossible to only love one person at a time is a myth. From insecurity to desperation, these are 6 of the most common reasons people can stop falling in love after one person. When my patients ask me this …
“Choose to be authentic. Choose happiness.” That’s easy enough to say when you’re privileged. Authenticity isn’t a choice for everyone. Some of us can only (freely) do it if others CHOOSE to support us. Some of us must be content with living authentically amongst those we trust Remember that, and be kind.
I recently became inspired to consider the connections between shame, guilt, humiliation, and degradation. As my master is Jewish, and our oldest daughter is devout enough for High Holy Days, I attended Yom Kippur services with them both. The rabbi’s speech centered around two concepts, Shame and Guilt. At one point he started labeling some things as …
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Sometimes I see exclusive associated with rare or valuable, but to me exclusive reminds me of Pretentious Elitist Racist (“whites only” locations) Snobby Unobtainable Small Marketing Unaffordable Distant Reserved for the wealthy and privileged An exclusive restaurant I cannot afford. An exclusive experience I’ll never have, because I don’t have the “right” connections or wasn’t …
Was it worth it? The birthday party. The mediocre houses, mediocre summer house, mediocre friends. The afternoon getting drunk at a bar before that concert. I hope they were great fucking drinks considering the price you paid for them. She called you names So you had to get her back He lied to you, so …
I talk about love and romance quite a lot, but it’s true Which is why I’m allowing myself to take a moment and address a small, but sincere, pet peeve of mine: I despise the term “lopsided relationship.” What the hell does that even mean? Romantic partners aren’t Christmas ornaments. You don’t have to make …
Want Some Guidance on Getting Started? If you wish to be the sort that lives the traditional, vanilla married couple life, you may well get along without much in the way of expectations management. Though I don’t believe it’s ideal, as I see far too many memes of clearly upset wives whose husbands do not …
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Ah, honesty! We speak of honesty and authenticity as this beautiful, wonderful, desired thing. Which it is to many. It can be utterly freeing to drop the facade and be one’s “true” self (after all, our selves may change, and we may not have “one true self”). But it can also be terrifying. Honesty can …
Post reshared with permission from @roundndround from her original link HERE Sensuality Sensual is not always sexual. To me, sensuality is a mindful practice. Sensuality is about the moment. THIS moment, this second, and… not a second past or before that. Just now. Sensuality starts with how you experience the world around you, your interactions with it and openness to …
“God knows if I wanted, I could go out and do whatever. You think I haven’t made sacrificed, I haven’t denied things for myself? A guy at the bar was hitting on me earlier, and half of me wanted him to, just for some excitement, some fucking passion. But that is what you do. That …