I come home most days to a person I love, to whom I’m committed in life and love. I would venture to say most of us do, or hope to one day. Pair-bonding is natural with social creatures; humans are social; easier to bond and share time when you share same space. It’s nice to live with the one you love, or can be. But the writing made me want to puke.
“What is love,” someone asked me. “You mean being in love, or love itself?” “Both?” Well, let me ponder that. “Being ‘in love’ is an infatuation. At least, it appears so. It’s used by the same sort of people, in my experience, as those who use phrases like ‘protect the relationship’ or ‘I give 100% …
(If Kitten could figure out how to combine food and napping in the manner of the above photo, she would.) I wake up, incomprehensibly still tightly curled inside my Master’s arms. This is just after our seventh anniversary. I awaken in the exact same position in which I fell asleep. “Snuggle in properly,” he says., …
Okay, so I thought it might be fun to just help out with a few light, fun “how to” guides on kink, munches, dating, etc. If you need a bit of help, here you go! 1. DO Treat your date like a person. Yup! That’s the first part. They are still a normal human being, …
Well, after all, most dom(mes) are like that, right? None of us are perfect. It’s really hard to be a dominant. Don’t judge them, you don’t even know what it’s like to do what they do. We shouldn’t blame a submissive’s bad experience on the dom(me). Submissives need to seek whatever help they need in …
They say when life closes a door, another one opens. I’m not so sure I believe this. Do you remember that bit from Ice Age where Scrat is precariously attached to the ice cliff and trying to keep the water from gushing out? He keeps sticking his hands, nose, whatever he can…but every time he …
Okay, so you understand red flags, negative traits, green flags, positive traits. You’ve just met the person. Initially, they do something that sets off your spidey senses. They showed up late to your first date, come on! After that, though, they never show up late again and you live happily ever after. Red flag averted. …
lessons on “green flags”: pt 2: how do you know if it’s real? Read More »
Someone shared their love of impact the other day. It’s difficult to explain to the outside, vanilla world that pain and suffering are chosen freely here. It was nice to have the words put simply and clearly. This– is why I love it. This– is why I chose it. Only, for myself, I don’t need …
i crave being owned, as she craves a white wedding gown or bruises Read More »
Red flags are fairly straight forward. Things you don’t want. Things to avoid. But sometimes we see a behavior and we are sure it means something terrible- but it turns out it was only a big, old, red flag. This person wasn’t trying to isolate you (red flag of an abuser and predator); they just …
lessons on “green flags”: pt 1: when someone isn’t who you think they are Read More »
This message is specifically directed to any couple thinking about opening up, but really it’s for anyone. I am skeptical of most “unconditional love.” I don’t want to argue here whether unconditional love exists. Perhaps it does. Perhaps it doesn’t. But love is more than a feeling. It is manifested in our actions. And that …
the harsh realities of sunk costs vs staying with the “one whose been there for you” Read More »