if they say they are the -only- one for you, they might also be the very worst for you
Do you know this song?
“I’m the only one
Who’ll walk across the fire for you/And I’m the only one
Who’ll drown in my desire for you”
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plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 1: dear pretty, mono girl
Fyi, this works in reverse for the “pretty” guys, the tall, handsome Chris Hemsworth look alike searching out their one, true, monogamous submissive love. Switch genders, or even sexes, as you like: Dear pretty, monogamous girl in search of her one true dominant, Remember high school? Maybe you were the pretty head cheerleader who never …
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when you get almost everything you want, AKA the stupid, spoiled bitch syndrome
You’re a silly, stupid, spoiled bitch my critical inner voice whispers. What, getting ninety percent of what you want isn’t enough for you? My beauty whispers to me, Of course it’s enough. It’s enough, I’m enough, you’re enough. I should listen to her kindness, her unabashed love towards me. But I don’t want “enough.” I want more. I want …
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lessons on “green flags”: pt 2: how do you know if it’s real?
Okay, so you understand red flags, negative traits, green flags, positive traits. You’ve just met the person. Initially, they do something that sets off your spidey senses. They showed up late to your first date, come on! After that, though, they never show up late again and you live happily ever after. Red flag averted. …
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lessons on “green flags”: pt 1: when someone isn’t who you think they are
Red flags are fairly straight forward. Things you don’t want. Things to avoid. But sometimes we see a behavior and we are sure it means something terrible- but it turns out it was only a big, old, red flag. This person wasn’t trying to isolate you (red flag of an abuser and predator); they just …
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