emotional abuse is abuse
ghosting smearing to cover your own cowardice violating boundaries spreading lies manipulation petty piece of shit
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Kitty’s Musings
awesome power of misguided strength, the
God, the determination of those who possess that misguided strength! Misguided in the sense that it, for all the world can see, takes them not only down an undesired path but one that is completely at odds with what they claim to be after. And keep going down it at the same rate as before,
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choosing polyamory can mean not having to choose
I am the sort of person that when asked if I want X or Y, I say, “Both? Both sounds good.” I’m home relaxing this past weekend and watching TV. On my latest obsession, the female lead (Teresa Lisbon) is at home with her boyfriend. He asks her if she wants to watch Casablanca. “It’s
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they do get some “thing” out of it
Brown paper packages tied up with string, Balenciaga bags, Christian Louboutin heels, oh, these are a few of my favorite things! Such luxuries can be nice. A comfort in hard times. Why can’t we have nice things? Well, we can’t afford them. Whenever I see some woman (usually a female person, but sometimes a male)
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don’t love yourself? try loving someone else
(Reposted from an earlier writing I abandoned for a bit. Inspired to share again by a fellow kinkster, @LovelyLolaTX) “If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” “If you don’t love you, why would anyone else?” “Learn to love yourself if you want someone to love you.” I don’t buy it. Not because
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hidden life of a Very Cherished Toy, the
“Ah,” she thinks, “is it my turn?” She pouts when she realizes it is her fellow toy’s turn. It isn’t fair, she thinks, they got used only yesterday! It ought to be her turn, tonight. Lady is going out of order. Is it because I am too worn out, she ponders. It is true she
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is polyamory “better” than monogamy?
I think that’s the wrong question. I don’t want to be asked if my relationship style is “better.” I want to be asked if my relationships are better. And, specifically, better than they used to be. I believe I can safely answer, “Yes.” Not because I’ve met better people. I hate that assumption. I believe we
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earned compersion vs. “natural” compersion
“Compersion isn’t necessary in a relationship!” scream many in the polyamorous community. I understand it may be a difficult concept, but the truth is I find that sentiment, bluntly received, rather crap. If I care about your happiness in your life, and, yes, romantic relationships, I expect the same consideration in return. Why should I care
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short history of the unicorn: poly edition, a
I realize after my last post that not everyone may be familiar with the term unicorn. Hence, a brief explanation.
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musings on jealousy
Jealousy is an odd creature. Somewhat elusive, but incredibly pervasive. Oftentimes ill defined and poorly examined. Perhaps it’s my current Nyquil-addled brain, but I’ve been thinking about this emotion. I think it’s a fair assumption to say we generally think of jealousy as defensive love in vanilla culture. “You are mine, your love and affection
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