(Reposted from an earlier writing I abandoned for a bit. Inspired to share again by a fellow kinkster, @LovelyLolaTX) “If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” “If you don’t love you, why would anyone else?” “Learn to love yourself if you want someone to love you.” I don’t buy it. Not because …
“Ah,” she thinks, “is it my turn?” She pouts when she realizes it is her fellow toy’s turn. It isn’t fair, she thinks, they got used only yesterday! It ought to be her turn, tonight. Lady is going out of order. Is it because I am too worn out, she ponders. It is true she …
I think that’s the wrong question. I don’t want to be asked if my relationship style is “better.” I want to be asked if my relationships are better. And, specifically, better than they used to be. I believe I can safely answer, “Yes.” Not because I’ve met better people. I hate that assumption. I believe we …
“Compersion isn’t necessary in a relationship!” scream many in the polyamorous community. I understand it may be a difficult concept, but the truth is I find that sentiment, bluntly received, rather crap. If I care about your happiness in your life, and, yes, romantic relationships, I expect the same consideration in return. Why should I care …
I realize after my last post that not everyone may be familiar with the term unicorn. Hence, a brief explanation.
Jealousy is an odd creature. Somewhat elusive, but incredibly pervasive. Oftentimes ill defined and poorly examined. Perhaps it’s my current Nyquil-addled brain, but I’ve been thinking about this emotion. I think it’s a fair assumption to say we generally think of jealousy as defensive love in vanilla culture. “You are mine, your love and affection …
Honey dipped lips Salty kiss Trapped breath, sharp exhale Traced velvet curves Dark pools behind closed lids Missing you tonight
I see it constantly. Couples seeking a bisexual woman. “Unicorn hunter!” they scream. There isn’t anything worse- in the polyamorous community- than wanting a “third.” Everyone wants their own perfect, SINGLE, female partner. Which, I guess, makes sense. It seems like such a dream for newly excited polyamorous couples. To find their perfect girlfriend. It’s …
Every day I see requests put forth by women and hetero couples. Requests that, if put forth by men, would be met with statements of “You should just pay a sex worker if you want that.“. Fair, but we need this for women and MF or FF couples, too! Someone willing to provide sexual services …
“Daddy?” “Yes, little one?” “Daddy, I want to play.” “What do you say?” “Daddy, I want to play. Please.” “Better. Come over here.” “Okay, daddy.” “Okay…what?” “Okay, daddy, thank you.” “Better. All right, now which game should we play, little one?” “Hmmm, I want to play hide and seek. I mean, I want to play …