Greed is normal, jealousy is normal. But what does “normal” even mean? Is it what is common? What is natural? What is right? I go to a doctor, I say I’m feeling “normal” today. My chronic pain is “normal.” That, of course, differs from those with lesser or greater chronic pain. It is, however, normal …
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Did you see the 30 Rock episode where Jon Hamm plays the eternally clueless, super sexy guy, because everybody is so in love with him they can’t criticize a single thing he does? Liz: You can’t put Gatorade on salmon. Drew: Yes you can – the hot Italian lady from the Food Network told me …
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I realize after my last post that not everyone may be familiar with the term unicorn. Hence, a brief explanation.
I desperately want to call Her crazy. I don’t, because I know she says it about me. A sign of a narcissist is that they call their exes “crazy.” I’d rather let her be the narcissist. The truth is, I don’t even believe she’s crazy. What she did made perfect logical sense from her perspective, and, frankly, …
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I’m lazy about relationships some days. So are my friends. Random internet strangers. …and who the fuck cares? My cousin is a typical traditionalist who chose the path of least resistance when it came to her romantic life. Something easily understood by her mainly Christian conservative friends and family. She dated the opposite sex. She …
God, your relationships are so LAZY! Read More »
Okay, he’s cute, sexy, whatever. Have I thought about him? Maybe. I’m demisexual- in the sense that I need an emotional connection, even if it only exists in my silly little head-, so I may not have any interest in yours in particular. Besides, you’ll probably never know. Flirting is generally defined by intent– and …
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I had a perfect week. I can’t imagine a more perfect week, perhaps an entirely different sort of perfect but not “more” perfect. It’s difficult, with all the pain surrounding us, but I don’t want to feel guilty for feeling, well, good. Happy. Floating in the clouds. Surrounded by love, support, everything anyone could claim …
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I read an article today about a mother who missed the days when she did not yet have children. Some will say that is just a passing phase. Others that they would never, ever feel that way. I wondered how many of them had ever met a child, let alone raised one. You will miss …
It’s a funny little thing, love. Or so it seems. There’s a poem, I saw once, floating in the void about Love and Motherhood. How love for one’s children isn’t just about how one talks about their child, or the hugs and kisses they post pictures of on their various accounts. But that it’s also …
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I usually say that I won’t date anyone who is monogamous. But that’s not entirely true. I’ve allowed people to date me, exclusively, if they preferred that. Only with individuals capable of meeting their own needs and wants, of course. Still, it’s not my preference. I prefer to date people who want to dive fully …
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