“What are you into?” Some folk get mad at the question. They say the question is trite, boring. ‘What was the best part about your day?,” your mother would ask you at dinner, after you got home from school. And secretly, you hated that question. “What are you into?” starts to feel like the grown …
art of the followup question in relationships, the Read More »
dear stranger, Perhaps you’re the sort that thinks polyamory, transgender, bi/pansexuality, etc is “trendy” and “fun.” I can’t say I disagree with you, entirely. Yes, I can see how someone who lives a more traditional life may see it that way. It’s quite fun to be able to express ourselves, freely, without expectations or boundaries. …
Kitty’s rambling mind and rambling thoughts. Funny when words spill forth, and you can’t control where they take you or where they land. I hope you can follow this rather convoluted string of thoughts. It’s been so long. In over a decade, I have not seen one shred of evidence that their mother wants them. …
The funny little ways we perceive love and ourselves. I grew up around Mormons, which meant I was familiar with polygamy from a young age. It was old fashioned, of course, and outdated. Still, everyone knew it happened. I did believe in equality; if a man could have multiple wives, women ought to have the …
morality of monogamy, polygamy, and relationship anarchy, the Read More »
Greed is normal, jealousy is normal. But what does “normal” even mean? Is it what is common? What is natural? What is right? I go to a doctor, I say I’m feeling “normal” today. My chronic pain is “normal.” That, of course, differs from those with lesser or greater chronic pain. It is, however, normal …
I think that’s the wrong question. I don’t want to be asked if my relationship style is “better.” I want to be asked if my relationships are better. And, specifically, better than they used to be. I believe I can safely answer, “Yes.” Not because I’ve met better people. I hate that assumption. I believe we …
I realize after my last post that not everyone may be familiar with the term unicorn. Hence, a brief explanation.
I desperately want to call Her crazy. I don’t, because I know she says it about me. A sign of a narcissist is that they call their exes “crazy.” I’d rather let her be the narcissist. The truth is, I don’t even believe she’s crazy. What she did made perfect logical sense from her perspective, and, frankly, …
I’m lazy about relationships some days. So are my friends. Random internet strangers. …and who the fuck cares? My cousin is a typical traditionalist who chose the path of least resistance when it came to her romantic life. Something easily understood by her mainly Christian conservative friends and family. She dated the opposite sex. She …
Okay, he’s cute, sexy, whatever. Have I thought about him? Maybe. I’m demisexual- in the sense that I need an emotional connection, even if it only exists in my silly little head-, so I may not have any interest in yours in particular. Besides, you’ll probably never know. Flirting is generally defined by intent– and …
no, i don’t want your husband: an explanation of ethical non monogamy Read More »