Not of a person, but of a whole philosophy. “Polyamory is an interesting strategy.” “Polyamory is for people who know life is unstable anyway.” Fuck that. It’s true that I know life is uncertain. Whatever I may have can disappear in an instant. But not them. My chosen family. The more freedom I give, the […]
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“Listen to my tone, not my words.” When I taught ESL (English as a Second Language), I can’t tell you how many times I said this phrase. I realized, soon after arriving and teaching myself how to do this whole “teacher” thing, that the first thing I had to teach wasn’t grammar or vocabulary. Many
I lie on the ground, staring at the open sky. Until I see a sharp light flash across the darkness. A shooting star. How often have I heard someone talking about a hoped for unicorn? More than I can speak on. It’s usually not a bisexual woman into couples, however, but something far rarer. If
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Isn’t that a comforting thought? I’ve considered this. A floating thought I saw somewhere. I know -she- does not actually think I’m a bad person. If she did, she would not have done the things she did. The assumption in the meme is that she does so not to cover up her guilt, but because
#BelieveVictims Believe victims, they say. Unfortunately the perpetrator is often the first to claim victimhood. Whom does one believe then? I don’t know the answer. All I know is that I will always provide basic respect and kindness to any human being. I will not promise that I will believe you, nor take your side.
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She had the perfect plan. Narcissists do have a plan, you know. I want you to know that you are not crazy. When it feels like you’re being pulled along this insane journey. You are. She had a plan. They always have a plan. It wasn’t a very good plan. You might wonder, too, if
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“Being nice hardly paid off for me. Should I quit being nice?” “Why does being the nice person never pay off?” “Does being nice get you anywhere?” I see a lot of these questions. Lots of folk are quick to jump on people who dare ask such questions. You shouldn’t be nice for a reason they
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To my sorry abuser, I am sorry for you. There, I finally said it. You were always too proud to hear it. But God, it feels good to let that out! I wonder, did you know? Could you see that you had lost two of your children? That you were losing the third? If you
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peace in stillness, it is not lonely to be alone when one is at peace with oneself i am more isolated surrounded by a sea of unfamiliar minds than with my own mind and body i cherish being alone is not something i desire much of but i can appreciate the profundity of quiet swirling
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