“What is wrong with me,” the sister queries through her tears as she confesses to cheating on her fiancé with a bartender. “Nothing is wrong with you,” Alma reassures her, “You’re human. You’re not perfect.” I appreciate the sentiment, but I think she deserves a little better than that. If I could, I’d say this …
wanting other people doesn’t mean you’re less perfect (*spoilers to Undone Season 1*) Read More »
Okay, he’s cute, sexy, whatever. Have I thought about him? Maybe. I’m demisexual- in the sense that I need an emotional connection, even if it only exists in my silly little head-, so I may not have any interest in yours in particular. Besides, you’ll probably never know. Flirting is generally defined by intent– and …
no, i don’t want your husband: an explanation of ethical non monogamy Read More »
Okay, okay, there’s clearly no such thing. Still, I’ve run into quite a bit of trouble on this matter. I’d like to air a few thoughts. Women seem to either want both my master and I, or want to come in between us. That’s how it’s pretty much always been. Yet I’ve continued to have …
Are you familiar with a duprass? duprass – a karass of only two people, who almost always die within a week of each other. The typical example is a loving couple who work together for a great purpose. Cat’s Cradle, Kurt Vonnegut Most of us have multiple connections, multiple obligations in our lives. We all have …
degree to which we save ourselves or share ourselves: the heart of poly and love, the Read More »
…or maybe less. Maybe you were some offhand, one night stand. Not that there was anything wrong with that. You both wanted a bit of release. You found it with each other that night. Or maybe you started out as friends that grew into “more,” (though I dislike that concept as it imagines that friends …
dear poly “couple,” remember that you started out as secondary, too Read More »
What would happen if People Treated Baking Cookies like they do Relationships?
So I hear today is National Metamour Day? What is a metamour, you ask? Well, actually it’s pretty simple: A metamour is like an in-law.
Unsuspecting Person: “I could never do that.” Me (on a normal day): “Cool.” Me (on a bad day): “Yeah, I’n not surprised. You’d be lucky to manage to make one relationship work.” Me (on a worse day): “You sure that being single isn’t your thing?” UP: “But what do you do if you have kids? …
[Polyamory] forces us to contend with the hubris of monogamy, [a] false arrogance about who we are in a relationship that never has to be tested or contended with at all [in our] monogamous relationship. I cannot remember when or where I had this conversation with a friend of mine. Discussing, among other topics of …
The atmosphere is perfect, if perfect exists. I’m sitting in my favorite restaurant in the world with -one- of my favorite persons in the world. Placing alternating morsels of exquisite sweet and savory foodstuffs (this date concoction is incredible!) into my mouth. Luxuriating in the gentle breeze of a fan. Behind me, plays one of …
polyamory in casablanca (**yes, some spoilers**) Read More »