short history of the unicorn: poly edition, a
I realize after my last post that not everyone may be familiar with the term unicorn. Hence, a brief explanation.
On Polyamory
when unicorns are unicorn hunters
I see it constantly. Couples seeking a bisexual woman. “Unicorn hunter!” they scream. There isn’t anything worse- in the polyamorous community- than wanting a “third.” Everyone wants their own perfect, SINGLE, female partner. Which, I guess, makes sense. It seems like such a dream for newly excited polyamorous couples. To find their perfect girlfriend. It’s …
what it’s like to “date” a polyamorous, aromantic lover
“Show up wearing nothing but a coat. I’ll be ready and waiting to cook your favorite meal, snuggle and watch a movie together, wake up lazily with kisses and serve you breakfast in bed.” I had a date like that with a former lover. Spoiled silly for an entire weekend, with someone who barely knew …
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can you be aromantic and polyamorous?
It’s a question I see come up now and again. Asexuals can absolutely be polyamorous, as romantic love does not have to be defined by sex. …but can aromantics be part of a ROMANTIC relationship structure, many ask? Well, yes and no. It depends on how you view romance. Is romance only flowers and Valentine’s …
privilege of being His second love, the
In the movies, the “best” loves aren’t the first ones. Funny, isn’t it? In the movies, the main character often goes through several false attempt loves before they find their lasting connection. Sometimes they even need to experience those initial loves to appreciate their “last” love (at least so far as the movie goes.) This …
struggling with solopoly
I like being independent. I love the idea of being my own person, all the time, without a care in the world. Solopoly, the idea of being polyamorous but remaining one’s own primary relationship. Without any of the burdens (though, yes, without some of the benefits) of a long term, committed, involved on every level …
phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one
Polyamory is NOT Just about having or wanting many, loving relationships -almost- ALL people want this and have this. Just because they “only” have one (or no) romantic relationships doesn’t mean they don’t have multiple, loving NON romantic relationships. Please avoid appearing like you believe you’re the only one with “too much love” to give …
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people really are bad at relationships: part one
I swear, I didn’t make these up. True relationship quotes I found from vanilla folk about polyamory and ENM (some responses are from me, others from actual responses from strangers). “I mean, respect to those who make this work, but I can’t understand how they don’t murder each other out of jealousy.” “If your best …
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when you’re polyamorous without the “amor”
I found this comment by an insightful stranger very telling and deserving of thought every definition I looked up on the internet and books said ‘multiple romantic relationships’, every poly person I spoke with did not use the word ‘romantic’. They used emotional, intimate, affectionate, loving … but not one of them (and there were …
10(+) questions to help know if polyamorous relationships -could- be a compatible choice for you
Do you want to try a polyamorous relationship for the first time? Open up an existing relationship? Date a partnered person? It’s bother harder, and easier, than you’ve likely been told. Being polyamorous is really no different than any other life. Especially if you have a few life skills already under your belt. Which…it might …