It’s a question I see come up now and again. Asexuals can absolutely be polyamorous, as romantic love does not have to be defined by sex. …but can aromantics be part of a ROMANTIC relationship structure, many ask? Well, yes and no. It depends on how you view romance. Is romance only flowers and Valentine’s […]
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There’s a lot of noise and confusion as you come into your own, as a queer person. For context, I have at least one child who is going through an active period of questioning and evolving her sexuality. At twelve, she’s already dealing with her own “noise.” Is she confused? Not really. Not anymore than
… can be exhausting. Justifying. Explaining. Listening to second hand lies. Of what or who I am, according to those who haven’t bothered to ask me. I am not queer enough. I am not attracted to enough bodies (why can’t you be pansexual?). Not loving enough, etc. etc. I live with a man, I play
living in a heterosexual relationship, as a bisexual being: part one: on being “enough” Read More »
Fire soothed her nerves, especially in moments such as these. Dancing gold, red, yellow, blue. She touched the flame with her fingertip, briefly. She’d never been comfortable with material things, but fire transcended the physical world. Something about it felt almost spiritual. She thought back to the other night, The flames traced a pattern on
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In the movies, the “best” loves aren’t the first ones. Funny, isn’t it? In the movies, the main character often goes through several false attempt loves before they find their lasting connection. Sometimes they even need to experience those initial loves to appreciate their “last” love (at least so far as the movie goes.) This
privilege of being His second love, the Read More »
Been moving and traveling a long time. Never overly worried about what I left behind, always trusted I would find something wherever I ended up. I somehow internalized a confidence in this, when I had little confidence in any other ability. That particular self-assurance paid off. I did find my tribe when I resettled, however
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Sometimes you love someone– and all you receive is their pity. Sometimes you waste your life for someone– and they resent you for it. Sometimes you say, “I’ve always been there for you.”– and they say,”That’s the problem.” Sometimes you adore them– and they are creeped out. Sometimes you craft the most perfect love letter–
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Dancing in the shower to some corny 90s pop song, beautifully scalding water cascading down my shoulders, back, over my curves. I could lose myself in the joy of the moment, or I could pout that master is not joining me tomorrow night. stupid snowmaggaden mrr mrr meh I am a very happy little kitten.
snowstorms, loneliness, beauty, joy, and scalding showers Read More »
I like being independent. I love the idea of being my own person, all the time, without a care in the world. Solopoly, the idea of being polyamorous but remaining one’s own primary relationship. Without any of the burdens (though, yes, without some of the benefits) of a long term, committed, involved on every level
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Polyamory is NOT Just about having or wanting many, loving relationships -almost- ALL people want this and have this. Just because they “only” have one (or no) romantic relationships doesn’t mean they don’t have multiple, loving NON romantic relationships. Please avoid appearing like you believe you’re the only one with “too much love” to give
phrases to drop to avoid disparaging other forms of relationships: part one Read More »