A quote from the author of More than Two, “Make sure there are no monsters under your bed before you do it, because if there are any weak points in your relationship if there is anything you’re not sure about, if there are any little fears or insecurities you have polyamory will find them it …
thoughts from “More Than Two”: it’s not just the “poly folk” Read More »
Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages: What does love mean to you? Look like? How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …
mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition Read More »
Sometimes you love someone– and all you receive is their pity. Sometimes you waste your life for someone– and they resent you for it. Sometimes you say, “I’ve always been there for you.”– and they say,”That’s the problem.” Sometimes you adore them– and they are creeped out. Sometimes you craft the most perfect love letter– …
sometimes you’re not enough Read More »
Been moving and traveling a long time. Never overly worried about what I left behind, always trusted I would find something wherever I ended up. I somehow internalized a confidence in this, when I had little confidence in any other ability. That particular self-assurance paid off. I did find my tribe when I resettled, however …
meeting people vs connections Read More »
Such a good line. It’s a Princess Carolyn line. From Bojack Horseman. What would I do differently? I’d talk less, smile more. Eat more fresh fruit, drink less– no. No, I wouldn’t. I’d do it all the same, more or less. I’d probably have most of the same virtues and vices. Still waste lots of …
I had a perfect week. I can’t imagine a more perfect week, perhaps an entirely different sort of perfect but not “more” perfect. It’s difficult, with all the pain surrounding us, but I don’t want to feel guilty for feeling, well, good. Happy. Floating in the clouds. Surrounded by love, support, everything anyone could claim …
why not allow a little more beauty into this world? Read More »
“focus on the feeling,” his voice is smooth, low, there are a lot of problems but they don’t exist now. “The only thing that matters is the feeling,” his fingers brush over the silkiness that is my body, swelling curves, gently emanating heat. it’s true. this is all that matters, now and always. all the …
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Perhaps you met young. Childhood sweethearts. High school romance stayed sweet. Your relationship spans, well, practically an eternity when you compare it to your friends’ romances. You don’t remember what life was like before she came along. Which is all well and good. At some point, you felt pretty good about what you’ve got. You …
relationships are a marble statue, not an oak tree Read More »
ask your partner what they would do if you fell in love with someone else on that first date, lying on the grass in the park
An open letter to the person who says romance is dead,
Carry on, dear soul.
Romance may be dead for you.