Essentials(Life/Love)

thoughts from “More Than Two”: it’s not just the “poly folk”

A quote from the author of More than Two, “Make sure there are no monsters under your bed before you do it, because if there are any weak points in your relationship if there is anything you’re not sure about, if there are any little fears or insecurities you have polyamory will find them it …

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mutual questionnaire when beginning a relationship: romance edition

Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages:  What does love mean to you?  Look like?  How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …

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“sometimes I feel like, if I could start everything over, knowing what I know now, I’d do it all right this time. But other times, I think, no I wouldn’t.”

Such a good line. It’s a Princess Carolyn line.  From Bojack Horseman. What would I do differently? I’d talk less, smile more. Eat more fresh fruit, drink less– no. No, I wouldn’t. I’d do it all the same, more or less. I’d probably have most of the same virtues and vices. Still waste lots of …

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why not allow a little more beauty into this world?

I had a perfect week. I can’t imagine a more perfect week, perhaps an entirely different sort of perfect but not “more” perfect. It’s difficult, with all the pain surrounding us, but I don’t want to feel guilty for feeling, well, good. Happy. Floating in the clouds. Surrounded by love, support, everything anyone could claim …

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relationships are a marble statue, not an oak tree

Perhaps you met young. Childhood sweethearts. High school romance stayed sweet. Your relationship spans, well, practically an eternity when you compare it to your friends’ romances. You don’t remember what life was like before she came along. Which is all well and good. At some point, you felt pretty good about what you’ve got. You …

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