Well, that’s not so easy to answer. I could say, rope play, impact play, dressing up in latex and leather, whips, doms, and dominatrices. It’s true this is the most common description of kink, and quite a valid one, but it’s not all of it… I can describe for you one kinky life of a …
I held a soft spot for the Phantom of the Opera many years before I self identified as kinky. I was, oh, twenty-five. It isn’t that I wanted that love story. I’m not keen on death and destruction. But that music— Night time sharpens, heightens each sensation Darkness wakes and stirs imagination Silently the senses …
**THIS LIST IS CONSTANTLY BEING UPDATED** These resources are geared towards those new to understanding healthy relationships. All- or most- are poly and kink friendly. But you don’t have to be kinky or poly to get value. If you read this material and think, yeah, I already know this? I may have additional resources for …
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I owe a lot to kink. Kink has not only helped me realize who I am… it forced me. Sometimes influence is the barest hint of a breath. Sometimes it is a violent gale. The more I learned about my kinky self and the kinky world, the more I love and accept myself. The more …
“What do you mean, ‘different’?”
“I don’t know. I don’t know what you have to offer me. I don’t know you. Show me something I’ve never experienced before. No— don’t simply spank me harder than any dominant has spanked me before. I can ask any dominant for that. That doesn’t spark anything in me.”
This is for anyone to use as a template if they have trouble with how people talk to them about their trauma and abuse– and would rather stay silent than deal with second hand trauma from having poor reactions from people who are trying to help, or make it worse. We speak of victims and …
Sometimes referred to as polyamory, sometimes as polyam (although, frankly, if you aren’t going to call it ‘poly,’ I say you might as well make the effort to say the whole word. It’s not that difficult.). Plus, “polyam” sounds like “poly ham” to me. Polyamory is often translated as “multiple loves.” It’s worth clarifying here …
Not of a person, but of a whole philosophy. “Polyamory is an interesting strategy.” “Polyamory is for people who know life is unstable anyway.” Fuck that. It’s true that I know life is uncertain. Whatever I may have can disappear in an instant. But not them. My chosen family. The more freedom I give, the …
**THIS LIST IS CONSTANTLY BEING UPDATED** I am tired of the stupid bullshit and propoganda taught in our current society. I think some might be salvaged, but the toxic masculinity/feminity, racist, etc junk? No. I just don’t want any of that, anymore. If Kitty had her own spaceship, these are the movies, TV shows, & …
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“Listen to my tone, not my words.” When I taught ESL (English as a Second Language), I can’t tell you how many times I said this phrase. I realized, soon after arriving and teaching myself how to do this whole “teacher” thing, that the first thing I had to teach wasn’t grammar or vocabulary. Many …