I am the sort of person that when asked if I want X or Y, I say, “Both? Both sounds good.” I’m home relaxing this past weekend and watching TV. On my latest obsession, the female lead (Teresa Lisbon) is at home with her boyfriend. He asks her if she wants to watch Casablanca. “It’s […]
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Brown paper packages tied up with string, Balenciaga bags, Christian Louboutin heels, oh, these are a few of my favorite things! Such luxuries can be nice. A comfort in hard times. Why can’t we have nice things? Well, we can’t afford them. Whenever I see some woman (usually a female person, but sometimes a male)
they do get some “thing” out of it Read More »
What do you do, what do you say? What do you do when the person claiming hurt is the one that hurt you? Do you believe them… this time? Do you put the past in behind you? Do you sit back and let whatever will be, will be? Do you think I know? I don’t
boy (or girl) who cried wolf, the Read More »
(Reposted from an earlier writing I abandoned for a bit. Inspired to share again by a fellow kinkster, @LovelyLolaTX) “If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” “If you don’t love you, why would anyone else?” “Learn to love yourself if you want someone to love you.” I don’t buy it. Not because
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This may not be my best writing, but I wanted to push the words outside of myself, where they’d sit and fester.
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“Ah,” she thinks, “is it my turn?” She pouts when she realizes it is her fellow toy’s turn. It isn’t fair, she thinks, they got used only yesterday! It ought to be her turn, tonight. Lady is going out of order. Is it because I am too worn out, she ponders. It is true she
hidden life of a Very Cherished Toy, the Read More »
I think that’s the wrong question. I don’t want to be asked if my relationship style is “better.” I want to be asked if my relationships are better. And, specifically, better than they used to be. I believe I can safely answer, “Yes.” Not because I’ve met better people. I hate that assumption. I believe we
is polyamory “better” than monogamy? Read More »
That’s the worst part, in a horrible, no good, very bad way. I’m better than I used to be. Even being in her town, my whole body would react. My heart would beat faster; my body would react as if I were under threat. I can handle being around her, even. Without my whole body betraying
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“Compersion isn’t necessary in a relationship!” scream many in the polyamorous community. I understand it may be a difficult concept, but the truth is I find that sentiment, bluntly received, rather crap. If I care about your happiness in your life, and, yes, romantic relationships, I expect the same consideration in return. Why should I care
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I realize after my last post that not everyone may be familiar with the term unicorn. Hence, a brief explanation.
short history of the unicorn: poly edition, a Read More »