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who does it hurt? it makes me feel better to not drop to the level of the person being nasty to me i don’t see hierarchy in people, not in that way.  If I treat my life partners and best friends with respect (and sometimes I fail, but I try my best), than I should […]

when someone tells you they are fine

they have nothing to talk about

when they’re quieter than usual

I never said I am the eternal optimist. Sometimes my tiny turtle mind says, “Hey, little dude, you’re flat on your back and you can’t get up!”

Dominance and submission cannot be summed up simply.  For now, I simply want to present one way of looking at this dynamic.

If vanilla life suits you, I’m sincerely happy for you.  This isn’t for you, though. Meeting people is hard.  That’s basic 101 Living Life As A Human. But if you’ve not been kinky for a while, you may not realize how freaking hard it is to meet kinky people!  Like more than the usual amount of…hard…ness. You

I will do my best to not be mocking, but, okay, you’re warned. God, I am sorry, but I do not understand the fantasy BDSM life. Young dom(mes) sitting around waiting for a bevy of idealized slaves to fill their inboxes, or, better yet, writing dominantly(?) to someone who has given no indication that they

This is what I believe and how I practice.  Everyone should be able to articulate their own.  If mine works for you, feel free to steal it (but please do credit and redirect here!) The Kitty presents: My Relationship Values …Every relationship I possess is unique, and between the two or more people directly involved;

“She’s just a friend.” I don’t love this phrase.  I’m supposed to attach some sacred value to a person with the title, “girlfriend,” or “boyfriend,” “fiancé” (with one “e”) or “fiancée” (with two “e”s) or “spouse.”  Since time began, I imagine men and women whispered this to each other, “Don’t worry about Sarah, she’s just

(If you aren’t familiar with the five love languages, please take some time to inform yourself.) (Also, please note that I believe that while we might have a primary love language or two, I do believe that most of us speak most, if not all, the languages…just some are of more concern to us than

“Hello, my name is Kitten and I like mental domination. Yourself?” When I’m at a munch, or a friend’s party, I’m not subtle about my kinks– even to perfect strangers. If you can’t talk to me about everything, I don’t want to talk to you about anything. Because that desire to find out about each